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Your Questions About Importance Of Anger

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Donna asks…

my bf is not givin me much importance to my anger coz m calm gal but still i want him to c to my anger.wt 2do?

he gives his al excuses n makes my anger useles or cuts d topic tellin his loads, i also want importance of my anger,instead he always gets angry i convince him coz i dnt wanna loose him still i want myslf different importance for my reasonable anger….

Sally Smith answers:

Write him a letter explaining your point of view. Or an e-mail.

Ken asks…

If there is no karma then how else do we learn the importance of love, compassion, tolerance for all?

Most of us don’t really learn unless we get a dose of our own medicine.

If we treat others with hatred, cruelty, intolerance (eg. homosexuals, other races, etc) then how will we know what it feels like unless we reincarnate as them and face the same treatment? Only then will we learn the real importance of tolerance.

Similarly do we learn the importance of love, compassion, honesty, integrity, justice, peace, friendship, family, kindness etc. And the futility of anger, hatred, war, jealousy, greed, etc – after many lifetimes of difficult experiences.

Sally Smith answers:

I do think that there is a practical, real life phenomenon of “what goes around comes around.” Typically those who make the lives of others miserable end up miserable themselves, because most people won’t put up with their crap.

Some folks like that learn their lesson and “grow up.” Others never do and go to the grave angry and bitter. That’s just the breaks. The world simply isn’t a fair and just place, which is all the more reason to be as compassionate and supportive to those who are less unfortunate than we are. Regardless of your beliefs or non-beliefs, love and compassion is what our society needs the most of.

Mandy asks…

How would you deal with your anger over old, stale gossip?

I was at my all-school reunion when Mouthy Myron mentioned the wild behavior of a classmate of mine when she was in high school. (That was when Buddy Holly was singing “It Doesn’t Matter Any More” in live performances, a song that Myron the Moron ought to listen to again!) My friend was active in drama and athletics, was on the honor roll, and was sensitive and considerate toward other people. She never pretended to be a plaster saint. Y’know, none of us ever got our statues erected in any cathedral. “Peggy Sue got married” and is a retired school administrator. She has successfully raised five children, loves to visit her great grandkids, and is active in her church and community. I realize that we all sometimes gossip, and that my hopping to her defense would have given the remark too much importance. So, is there any way to deal with this kind of situation, without making it worse?

Sally Smith answers:

Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Move on.

Translation: Don’t sweat the small stuff, and consider the source, my friend. Mouthy Myron was surely revealed to be a moron by anybody who knows about “Peggy Sue.”

Anybody who matters wouldn’t care, and anybody who would care, doesn’t matter.

Your Questions About Effective Communication

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Robert asks…

Can you re word this assignment topic for me?

“Using specific examples, discuss the impact of poor communication skills in both the workplace and home environment. Describe effective communication skills and consider how they can facilitate positive change.”

I just need this to be re worded so I can understand it better, it was an assignment given to us over the holidays so I have no way of talking to my teacher.

Thank you!

Sally Smith answers:

Why is it important to communicate well? How can giving the wrong message to someone cause problems at work and within your family? How can you make your points clearly and be respectful of others as well? How can good communication make life easier?

Lisa asks…

question regarding workplace that i need help with asap please?

what are some of the barriers to effective communications that you might experience in the workplace?
and what are some ways to overcome these barriers?

thanks for your help : )

Sally Smith answers:

SOME BARRIERS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN THE WORKPLACE ARE:

LANGUAGE/CULTURAL/RELIGIOUS DIFFERENCES
Creating trust, showing respect, receiving respect, give & take on both sides to balance situation. Gain support from relevant authority.

BULLYING.
Firstly, ask them to stop as their behaviour is unacceptable,
point out to management that no-one should suffer humiliation, discomfort or intimidation. Understand the form of your grievance & proceed to management.

GENDER/AGE DIFFERENCES.
Acknowledge that different ages & genders DO have different values due to their covering different times of maturing. Be prepared to accept some value in both sets of ideas.

HAZARDS & PHYSICAL DISCOMFORT.
Approach the relevant Occupational Health & Safety representative with your grievances in writing, preferably supported by fellow workers.

LEVEL OF EDUCATION.
The person not as well educated is not necessarily less intelligent. With this fact in mind effort to assure the position is within the capabilities of the worker, or would be with training.

(Hope this helps a little.)

 

Your Questions About Effective Communication

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James asks…

Is Bible Bashing ever effective…?

…or is it just a power trip?

The very first time I ever heard the term “bible basher” was from a Mormon missionary. I had made the decision to leave that religion and was requesting ex-communication (which they never granted me) and I was showing them where their religion was against the Bible and they gave up immediately and said they would not “bible bash” with me.

Then when I took Bible lessions with Jehovah’s Witnesses…I witnessed how they turned bible bashing into an art. It was such a rush for them to have the answer to everything scriptural at the drop of a hat. Like pulling a gun at a showdown. But it seemed to just leave people pissed off.

So, I was wondering if any bible bashers out there ever converted anyone by this practice, or is it a exercise in memory or a kind of contest?

Sally Smith answers:

I suppose the answer would depend upon the weight and acceleration of the bible in question. That and the number of times it is used upon somebody’s forehead. Put it all together and you have power.

No, not effective, a turn-off.

Nancy asks…

pl z help i am new user of human resourse management?

1. Which of the following personality characteristics are associated
with people who are likely to exhibit violent behavior on the job?
a. Neurotic
b. Optimistic
c. Extraverted
d. Type A
2. Which of these suggestions is an effective way to deal with stress?
a. Meditation
b. Exercise
c. Talking with others
d. All of the given options
3. In most large facilities, who is responsible for reducing unsafe
working conditions and reducing unsafe acts by employees?
a. Chief executive officer
b. Chief safety officer
c. Occupational safety and health officer
d. Chief operations officer
4. Who distinguished between intrinsic motivation and extrinsic
motivation?
a. Frederick Taylor
b. Frederick Herzberg
c. David McClelland
d. Edward Deci
5. Which of the following is categorized as an indirect payment
portion of employee compensation?
a. Wages
b. Salaries
c. Employer-paid insurance
d. Commissions
6. Stress can affect not only your health, but also other aspects of your
life. What else can be affected by stress?
a. Family relationships
b. Work performance
c. Your attention to safety
d. All of the given options
7. Unemployment benefits are typically about __________ percent of
a person’s earnings and last for__________.
a. 50; 26 weeks
b. 75; 1 year
c. 100; 2 years
d. 25; 4 weeks
8. Unsafe acts can be reduced through all of the following methods
except:
a. Job rotation
b. Screening
c. Training
d. Incentive programs
9. Which of these is the most common type of retirement plan?
a. Defined benefit
b. ERISA
c. Defined contribution
d. Money purchase plan
10. Which one of the following statements is correct in relation to
monetary rewards in accordance with Herzberg’s Two-Factor
theory?
a. Pay increases are a powerful long-term motivator
b. Inadequate monetary rewards are a powerful dissatisfier
c. Monetary rewards are more important than non-monetary rewards
d. Pay can never be used as a motivator
11. Which pattern of communication is the quickest way to send a
message?
a. The circle
b. The chain
c. The Y
d. The wheel
12. Chronic stress is the stress that wears at people day after day.
Which of these is an example of chronic stress?
a. An unhappy marriage
b. Ongoing money problems
c. Dissatisfaction with a job
d. All of the given options
13. The relative position of an organization’s pay incentives compared
to other companies in the same industry is known as:
a. Pay structure
b. Pay appraisal
c. Pay level
d. Pay feedback
14. Poor quality lateral communication will result in which of the
following?
a. Lack of direction
b. Lack of coordination
c. Lack of delegation
d. Lack of control
15. Which of the following is a health hazard in the work place?
a. Uncollected waste paper
b. Heavy object
c. Frayed crypt
d. All of the given options
16. Managers can motivate people to avoid performing dysfunctional
behaviors by using:
I. Extinction
II. Punishment
III. Negative reinforcement
a. I, II, III
b. I and III
c. II and III
d. I and II
17. Workers’ compensation benefits fall into all of these major
categories except:
a. Medical care
b. Retirement benefits
c. Disability income
d. Death benefits
18. Expectancy theory focuses on the relationships between which
three factors?
a. Needs, effort and persistence
b. Needs, performance and inputs
c. Inputs, performance and outcomes
d. Needs, performance and outcomes
19. A horizontal extension of the object to increase task variety is
called:
a. Job evaluation
b. Job enrichment
c. Job enlargement
d. Job rotation
20. Communication between two members of a project team from
different function, but the same level of authority is ________
communication.
a. UP ward
b. Downward
c. Lateral
d. Diagonal

Sally Smith answers:

Question No.Selected Option
1C
2D
3C
4D
5D
6D
7D
8B
9B
10C
11B
12D
13C
14C
15C
16A
17B
18C
19C
20D

 

Your Questions About Emotional Balance

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Mandy asks…

Please help! Doctor apmt in a week!?

Ok, Enough is Enough?
So I have a homeopathic doctor who told me that from my hair follicle test it shows my female system is imbalanced. Long story short, I was prescribed Preseodymium Phosphoricum to balance me out. I have been taking it but for the last 6 mths my mentrual period has been late off and on by a week, two and once I skipped a month. In the midst of all this, I have developed this strange habit of getting this knot in my throat that feels like when you want to cry but you hold back. If I am on the preseodymium phosphoricum the throat issue is gone,…but where is my period? I am 45 days waiting still from the the first day of my last period. I have off and on cramps….some emotional issues but other than that, no period symptoms. I’m just tired of waiting for my period…. Is it possible I am going through pre-menapause? I am not and cannot get pregnant because my boyfriend and I cannot conceive together. Is it the homeopathics? Any HD’s out there?

Sally Smith answers:

My advice is to make an appointment with a General Practitioner at a regular clinic for a diagnosis and/or referral to a regular physician. Homeopathic doctors do not have the broad spectrum of diagnostic tools available to regular doctors. You’re more likely to get a definitive answer and better solution to more serious health problems from a regular doctor. Homeopathic doctors have their niche and serve that niche well, but your problems seem to be beyond the scope of your homeopathic doctor.

Michael asks…

I hate my friend? How to get over envy?

I shouldn’t. I know I shouldn’t but it is very hard not to. I disagree with the education system at my school and often have internal conflicts with my inner rebel and the side that actually wants to get good grades. I usually can dive into a test and at least get an average mark, because I’m a talented writer and I listen in class. But I have a lot of emotional/identity issues, and sometimes breakdowns or introspective deep thought end up screwing with my study habits. My ‘friend’ never does anything but study. She even skips out on compulsory school commitments just to study. All day, she just freaks over work; sometimes homework which is not even significant for marks. So far she has dux for getting A+ in all eight subjects, and every specific award for each of those subjects were given to her. When I try to slowly and calmly revise for a test, she comes and shakes or screams at me over something in work she wants to reassure herself over. I’m trying to give myself life balance and improve my grades again, but when I am around her it is hard not to feel worthless, and guilty. All I hear from her are complaints and wining about homework or assignments. She was angry at me all day on friday because she got an A- in English instead of A+. I am so envious of her achievements and work ethic, yet at the same time I look at her pathetic excuse for a life and feel better… but overall I can’t stop hating her so bad because of school, and I wish she would just leave; even though she hangs with our group and is always patient with me. Now when I do my tests, I just see her face and feel like I am so stupid and can’t even answer anything functionally unless she is not doing the same elective as me.

Sally Smith answers:

I think you should reassure your friend and tell them to just calm down and not rush over everything. You on the other hand are sort of in the same boat. You should try to also keep calm and think about work when it is important to you but not to rush it. Envy… You can always try taking that envy and using it to make you work harder, or try to talk to your friend about it.

I hope I have helped.

 

Your Questions About Better Relationship Quotes

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Joseph asks…

quotes about getting through a tough time in a relationship?

im looking for some good relationship quotes about tough times and making it through them.

Sally Smith answers:

“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” Epicurus

“If a relationship is to evolve, it must go through a series of endings.” Lisa Moriyama

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.” Ursula K. Le Guin

“The art of love … Is largely the art of persistence.” Albert Ellis

“The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress.” Joseph Joubert

“Tolerance and celebration of individual differences is the fire that fuels lasting love.” Tom Hannah

Ken asks…

What are cute/good relationship love quotes?

Well I can’t really find any cute relationship quotes, they can also be like missing you quotes also. Please help me out?

Sally Smith answers:

“It is the things in common that make relationships enjoyable, bit it is the little differences that make them interesting.” Ruthman.

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement…all success… All achievement in real life grows.” Ben Stein.

Jenny asks…

What are some good relationship quotes ?

Sally Smith answers:

“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship”. ~Doménico Cieri Estrada

Mary asks…

good songs or quotes about a relationship falling apart?

me and my boyfriends relationship is falling apart. good quotes and songs about this would be nice to listen to or read. its like he doesnt feel the same anymore. or he is seeing someone else. we have been together for 6 months now.

Sally Smith answers:

“After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breath and reboot.” – Sarah Jessica Parker

“Sometimes things fall apart so other things can fall into place.” – Debra Roberts

“When everything else falls apart and crumples away…. Your will and soul is still there.” – Bradley Adam Henderson

“I never fall apart because I never fall together.” – Andy Warhol

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe

“We need others. We need others to love and we need to be loved by them. There is no doubt that without it, we too, like the infant left alone, would cease to grow, cease to develop, choose madness and even death.” – Leo F. Buscaglia

“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.” – Benjamin Franklin

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation…” – Oscar Wilde

“Don’t flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

“What loneliness is more lonely than distrust?” – T.S. Eliot

“Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words” – Dr. Joyce Brothers

Your Questions About Effective Communication

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Susan asks…

college work… want some opinions with different answers?

1. In what ways is listening important to effective group and team communication? What might teams do to improve how the team functions?

2. What communication strategies may be used to build rapport and team cohesiveness in a virtual environment?

if you could answer one or both that would be great thanks

Sally Smith answers:

This isn’t a “Higher Education” question, but rather a homework question. And in order to learn anything meaningful, you will need to do the work yourself. This must have been discussed in your class, or in your textbook. Perhaps you can discuss this with some of your classmates?

Donna asks…

Can you tell me what these mean?

? Give At least three different learning styles and a strategy for effective communication and collaboration among them

?Give At least three different personality types and a strategy for effective communication and collaboration among them

Sally Smith answers:

Learning styles:

visual – movies, handouts, reading directions

hands on – taking something apart and putting it back together again

rote – audio, repetition

Personality types:

Aggressive - they run over boundaries, they demand more attention, feel entitled.

Assertive – easiest to deal with, enjoy this type, it’s the healthiest, keeps their own boundaries and yours.

Passive aggressive – meeker, milder, quieter; help them be treated equally, empower them, let them take responsibility, encourage some.

Your Questions About Effective Communication

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Jenny asks…

What is an example of using effective communication within a business?

I need 4 appropriate examples of the aids and barriers to effective communication. plzz help!

Sally Smith answers:

Based on your question here is a couple that might help:

(Aid) Technology – Electronic communication like e-mail has aided the speed and efficiency of communication which cuts down time and distance barriers.

(Barrier) Language – Increasing international business means the difference in language between one part of a business and another overseas can provide a barrier to communication.

Susan asks…

what do you consider to be effective communication in a relationship?

i hear this topic brought up by women a lot it seems. so can you define it for me from your perspective. in practical terms, what does effective communication mean in a relationship?

Sally Smith answers:

People communicate in different ways, and we need to try to communicate with our loved ones in their way as well as ours. Some people prefer verbal and mental contact, other people are more physical. If your spouse is very mental/verbal, giving her a hug as an apology, for example, might not be as effective as telling her that you made a stupid mistake and apologize profusely! Simplified, obviously, but do you get the principle?

Laura asks…

Which of the following would be the most effective communication method to conduct ameeting between company?

Which of the following would be the most effective communication method to conduct a
meeting between company staff in Chicago and the architects in Miami to select a design
for the new home office?

A. Fax
B. Paging
C. Videoconferencing
D. Cell phone

Sally Smith answers:

I will say in the order of BDCA. First page them… Them call and tell the detail. Then on video, then send the drawing via fax….Hope ur happy now..

Sharon asks…

What kind of essay would I write to show effective communication and leadership?

I’m in FCCLA (Family Career Community Leaders of America) and I’m doing a STAR event. It’s a competitive event, and mine is Job Interview. In JI, we have to make a portfolio and in it I need three essays that show effective communication and demonstrate leadership. Can you give me an example of what I might write for that? I need three essays like such. Some help would be MUCH appreciated.

Sally Smith answers:

Some ideas if I were you I would think of a time that you showed leadership, in any way shape or form in the community, home, school, friends, anywhere. Then I would compare that to a women in history that showed great leadership. You could look up women who took a stand for equal rights and so on. Using both to write your essay would be effective communication.

Ruth asks…

What are the key features ?the key features of effective communication and why it is important to model ?

What are the key features ?
the key features of effective communication and why it is important to model this when interacting with adults, children and young people.
7. what are the main differences between communicating with adults and communicating with children and young people.

8. how to demonstrate that you value adults’ views and opinions and why it is important to the Development of positive relationships.

9, communication difficulties that may exist and how these can be overcome.

Sally Smith answers:

The type of language used – children need simpler terms than adults and you also need to think of concentration levels and attention spans.

Active listening, nodding etc, taking note of their views and opinions, but you need to take care that you work together to achieve objectives.

It may be that you cannot do what someone is asking you to do but if you explain why, a level of mutual understanding can be achieved. There may be barriers such as hearing impairments, language etc that have to be overcome too.

Betty asks…

What would you say effective communication is?

For health and social work.

What is effective communication for you?

Sally Smith answers:

“Effective Communication” is being able to explain an idea or principle so that it is not ambiguous and that the receiver is totally clear on what it is you are trying to portray. Communication takes many forms from signs to verbal communication. If you consider that with face to face communication, the verbal portion makes up a very small part of the message with body-language, facial expression and intonation making up the rest. If you consider the different ways that you could ask “What are you doing here?”, you will see what I mean. A lot of these subtle parts of communication are lost in written script and even over the telephone which explains why people sometimes get upset over innocent text messages.

Some people have obvious impairments, like sight and hearing, but there are other impairments like autism and aspergers that prevent the receiver from fully understanding what has been said (especially things like sarcasm). There are also cultural differences in body-language that can send mixed messages to the receiver.

I prefer one to one/face to face communication so that if I think I haven’t fully understood something, I can ask for clarification.

Your Questions About Overcoming Shyness

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Susan asks…

What is the best way of overcoming shyness?

I’m starting my acting career and these is my only concern. I am starting to go to an acting school but i still want your advice. I have been to an acting school in 2004 , i auditioned for a Reese’s Pieces commercial and i got it but my mother pulled me out for personal reasons. Stupid right ?

THX !

Sally Smith answers:

Put yourself in situations where you can’t be shy. Talk to people you never would have talked to before. Introduce yourself to new groups of people. Be friendly, and you will notice that your shyness will fall away. It’s not as bad as you think.

I was extremely shy and I wanted to be an actress as well. So I joined the student council, that way I would have to be outgoing and talk to people. I was able to overcome my shyness and even though I am still nervous to talk to people, its easier now. So, join a club or something, and going to an acting school is a good way to overcome shyness, because there’s no other choice put to get on the stage and act!

If you ever do get nerves, when you do a monologue, just look above the heads of the audience, and when your working with other people, just focus on that person. Its just you and them talking, so your not so nervous anymore!

So just take a deep breath and act!

Daniel asks…

How to go about gaining confidence /overcoming shyness?

Right pathetic as it sounds I’m 17, never had a girlfriend which is bad, am cripplingly shy with basically no self confidence and i can barely ever keep a conversation going due to said lack of confidence/shyness, So do you know how I could go about gaining confidence and rcoming my shyness? I was looking into one of those self hypnosis CD’s but I don’t know how useful they’d be.

Sally Smith answers:

Act as if you had confidence.

I have done this my entire life and people have always thought I had much more confidence than I have ever really had. I am in reality a quite shy person BUT when I am too nervous to do something I take a deep breath and say to myself, “okay, how would a really confident person act?” Then I go and do it “pretending” I am that very confident person.

Pretending to have more confidence than you really have may sound strange but all other things being equal, that is usually the thing that will either get you the date or lose you the date.

I hope this helps!?

Sharon asks…

What therapy is best for overcoming shyness?

Does animal -assisted therapy help out also?
What if you do not have a pet?

Sally Smith answers:

There’s one called exposure therapy. It’s where you constantly (within normal parameters) expose yourself to the situations you feel most shy in. Each time you do it, you supposedly become more comfortable and relaxed in social situations. I say supposedly because I am neither patient nor therapist, but I have had some shyness before. However, statistically, this has been proven a very successful technique practiced by many therapists.

As to your question regarding animals, I’ve never heard of that before. Wouldn’t make much sense to me, though, to cure your shyness with people by petting animals. Anyway, good luck. Hope all turns out well for you. :)

Helen asks…

How do I work on overcoming shyness?

I want to appear more confident with friends and co-workers.

Sally Smith answers:

It is really all about believing it yourself. If you pretend often enough that you are comfortable and confident (act the way you perceive those who are), then you will eventually begin to see yourself this way. It is an actual retraining of your brain and beliefs. That is what is so cool about our minds, we have the power to change them anytime we want. “Who you are determines what you perceive” and “Change your mind, change your life”.

Ken asks…

Is it bad to drink alcohol for overcoming shyness?

I’m a 19 year old guy. A freshmen at college. I have been a shy guy for as long as I can remeber. I used to be a very straight edge guy before I came to college. Now, I smoke occasionally and drink alcohol. I love drinking alcohol befoe big parties because I become way more relaxed and more outgoing. It is such a wonderful feeling. Is this a bad thing to do?

Sally Smith answers:

The problem is that the more you rely on alcohol to relax and steady your nerves the more nervous and tense you will be when you are totally sober.

You could actually get to the stage where you need a few drinks to feel normal.

You must not get too carried away or you could eventually become an alcoholic.

Your Questions About Better Relationship With Daughter

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Sandy asks…

How to build a joyful father-daughter relationship?

I am a 17f I had a nice time with my dad but, Since I moved to into adolescence our relationship have collapsed. how can a teen daughter have a good relationship with dads, like a friend?

Sally Smith answers:

Always ask them for advice, they were your age once! Usually in this kind of scenario, there is a ‘age-boundary’ above which you don’t take someone seriously and this hinders a family relationship. The adult usually has no ‘age boundary’ since they have been there and done that. But like I said they were your age once. Also there is still a little ‘kid’ in all adults so that’s good to keep in mind. In addition to always asking for advice, ask to to fun things with him – sledding, bowling, playing cards with your favorite music playing, a picnic etc. :)

Laura asks…

How can I get a better relationship with my daughter?

I have a 14 year old daughter.When she was younger I use to be her best friend.Now that she has gotten older our relationship has changed.She doesn’t talk to me any more because she says im just going to go and tell my friends.She has become very disrespectful,and she doesn’t listen to me anymore,but she doesn’t seem to think so.I love her to death,but I feel that our realationship that we once had is going to become worst and eventually to a end……..Can you please help me get our mother daughter relationship back

Sally Smith answers:

At 14 she isn’t a little girl anymore and is going through hormone changes etc. So you have to give her a little lee way.
But remember you are her mother not her best friend. Although you should try and be good friends with her and have a close relationship. I would recommend a mother daughter night. You could watch a movie, give her a facial and make up session, and try and get the bond you had back. Tell your daughter that she can tell you anything and that she doesn’t need to keep any problems bottled up inside her. And that you honestly wouldn’t tell anyone her problems, the same as if you had a problem and you told her she wouldn’t tell her friends. Ask her if there is anything in particular she wants to do one night and if you can afford it or it is suitiable you could maybe do what she wants to do. But do not let your daughter rule the roost; it’s really just getting the mix of being a friend and a parent.

Helen asks…

how do I have a better relationship with my daughter?

my daughter is 36 years old and we had a good relationship when she was a toddler, now we clash, she is a very senstive person and she’s very critical of everything I do she hates my significant other she takes everything i say the wrong way, she now has a daughter of her own thats 16 ..I had some bad things happen to me about 4 months ago and I needed a place to go and stay until I got myself together as a last resort I went to her house, she answered her door and told me that my emergencies are not her emergencies and basically she asked me to leave…I’m still in shock over this I spoke to her once briefly since then, and that was for her to say happy mothers day when i was on the phone with my grandaughter also she sent me a mothers day card to my place of employment with a note inside that said something relating to forgiviness I feel she owes me an apology she turned her back on me a my lowest point i would have trouble treating a stranger that way ,

Sally Smith answers:

That’s a tough one. I am wondering if there were big problems between toddlerhood and moving out on her own. Sorry to suggest, but if you partied, drank, did drugs, had a lot of men in and out of her life, she may be very resentful of you for what she may consider her lost youth. If those things did not happen, and nothing else, maybe she is just selfish! You raise them the best you can, but they still develop their own personalilties. Ask yourself — did I mother her the way I should have, did I teach her to be generous, has she had something happen in her own adult life that might make her just want to be left alone? It would be nice if you could convince her to sit down with you and just ask if there is something you have done to cause her resentment. And, then listen and only listen. Do not interrupt to defend your actions. Let her vent. You may hear things you never realized. You may hear that she took something the wrong way and when it is your turn to talk, explain nicely. Perhaps both of you could talk to a counselor or clergy.
You may not realize what you may have done. ASK !!!

Donald asks…

What movie is this? Father and daughter have good relationship and then…?

and then the dads girlfriend and her two sons move in, the daughter cuts her hair and sleeps with on of the boys. On the cover I think the father and daughter are pictured resting sitting or laying down in a field or grass or something.

Sally Smith answers:

The Ballad of Jack and Rose

It’s with Daniel Day Lewis and Camilla Belle.

Your Questions About Effective Communication Definition

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Nancy asks…

For a fifth grader, how is good communaction related to health?

So I have a paper for my health class with a question I don’t understand. Here is the question, can you explain it to me?: Imagine you are teaching a fifth grader about health. Write a paragraph for the fifth grader that explains why effective communication is related to health. Include a definition of”effective communication” in your paragraph. SO what i don’t under stand is why is effective commutation realted to health for a fifth grader.

Sally Smith answers:

Well to remain healthy you need to start at a young age. Effective communication is when 2 or more people are communicating and everyone understands and has their own input. Maybe you need to write about effective communication between doctors and patients. If a patient does not communicate what symptoms are then his health could be in jeopardy.

Therefore effectively communicating with your doctor will help keep you healthy.

Ken asks…

Difference between Rhetoric and Persuasion?

What is the difference between the two? Is Rhetoric just effective communication skills or is it synonymous with persuasion? They seem very similar and the definitions I’m finding don’t really make sense.

Sally Smith answers:

There is a great deal of overlap in meaning with the words “rhetoric” and “persuasion.” Rhetoric must be in written or verbal form, and yes, it is a tool used for persuasion. Rhetoric is more of a literary term, and it is used in more formal situations. Rhetoric is often used to get someone to share (or at least consider) your viewpoint; it is about influencing what someone thinks. Persuasion includes that same concept, plus it can be about getting someone to actually take action or do something for you.

Rhetoric (noun)
Definition:
1. Persuasive speech or writing: speech or writing that communicates its point persuasively

Now, consider what you know about persuasion and how you get others to do what you want them to do. Often this is accomplished in verbal form (like rhetoric), and sometimes for more official situations it is accomplished in written form (like rhetoric). However, even children quickly learn how to persuade their parents and their caretakers. You might persuade someone through your actions using some of these examples:

gifts, favors, bribes
smiles, kind looks, endearing looks
pleading looks
frowns, pouting, or sad looks
crying or displaying tears
screaming or tantrums
taking someone by the hand and leading them where you want to go
tugging on someone’s arm, clothing, etc.
Gesturing with the hands to indicate you want something to be given to you

As you can see, persuasion encompasses a broader range of options. Rhetoric is the tool you would use for persuasion in literary situations, but there is a wide variety of tools available in more casual or everyday situations.

Persuasion (noun)
Definition:
1. Act of persuading: the act of persuading somebody to do something

Paul asks…

I need help for my Health and Wellness Class.?

I made a studyguide, but I don’t know some of the answers? Most of it is just definitions…Here’s a Copy of it:

Health and Healthy Life Long Behaviors:
Health Literacy:
Health Triangle:
-A.
-B.
-C.
Factors that influence your health:
1.
2.
3.
Reliable Sources for health information:
Skills for Effective Communication and Conflict Resolution:
1. 1.
2.2.
3.3.
4.
5 steps to successful decision- making skills:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Long Term and Short Tem goals:
Steps to accomplish goals:
Terms:
Prevention:
Heredity:
Environment:
Culture:
Advocacy:

Physical Fitness:
Steps to take before, during, and after physical activity:
R.I.C.E.: Rest. Ice. Compression. Elevation.
F.I.T.T.:
5 elements of fitness:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
BMI:
Factors that influence BMI:
3 Tests to measure your body fat and muscle ratios:
BMR: Basil Metabolic Rate
Terms:
Dehydration:
Hypothermia:
Frostbite:
Dislocation:
Fractures:
Muscle strains:
Sedentary Lifestyle:

Nutrition:
Simple Carbohydrates:
Complex Carbohydrates:
Benefits of a high fiber diet:
A.Lowers cholesterol level
B.HDL and LDL
C.Prevent Constipation
D.Controls Diabetes
E.Prevents Heart Disease
Carbohydrates are converted into glucose to be used by the body for energy
After eating, glucose levels will rise
Food Pyramid:
A.Fats (you should eat less of these)
B.Milk and dairy
C.Fruits and vegetables
D.Breads and grains (you should eat more of these)
E.Meat and protein
Complete protein: has all 20 amino acids
Incomplete protein: missing 9 amino acids
One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories
Another name for fat is Lipids
3 eating disorders:
A.Annorexia
B.Bulimia
C.Over- eating
Proteins = 4 calories
Carbohydrates = 4 calories
Fat = 9 calories
Six Main Nutrients:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
Terms:
Anemia: low on iron
High Blood Pressure: Blood contracts hard
Sodium: salt
Protein functions:
Calcium Functions:
Lactose Intolerant: allergic to milk
Obesity: way over weight
Saturated Fats: come from plants and is liquid at room temperature
Unsaturated Fats:
Transfats: hydrogenated fats
Hydrogenation:

Sexual Health:
Male
Testes:
Scrotum:
Sperm Cells:
Semen:
Vas Deferens:
Ejaculation:
Testosterone:
Prostrate Gland:
Hernia:
Jock Itch:
Sterility:

Female
Ovum:
Fallopian Tubes:
Uterus:
Cervix:
Vaginal- birth Control:
Menstruation:
Estrogen:
Mammogram:
Pap Smear:
Endometriosis:
Infertility:

Abstinence:
Condums:
Barrier Methods of Birth Control:
Horomonal Methods of Birth Conrol:
Spermicidal:

AIDS:
HIV:
HPV (Human Papilloma Virus):
Trichomaniasis:
Chlamydia:
Gonorrhea:
Syphilis:
Vaginitis:
Pubic Lice:

Tobacco, Alcohol, and Drugs:
Nicotine:
Nicotine Substitutes:
Tar:
Smokeless Tobacco:
Mainstream Smoke:
Sidestream Smoke (second hand smoke):
Carcinogens:
Emphysema:
Bronchitis:

Binge Drinking:
Alcohol Poisening:
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome:
Depressant:
Cirrosis:
Alcohol Abuse:
Synergistic Effect:
DUI:
BAC:
Detoxification:
Sobriety:

5 Categories of Drugs:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Methamphetamine:
Hallucinogens:
Barbituates:
Inhalants:
Marijuana:
Designer Drugs:
Ecstacy:
Anabolic-androgenic Steroids:
Club Drugs:

Emotional Health:
Suicide Warnings: FACT:
-Feelings
-Actions
-Changes
-Threats
Myths associated with suicide:
Steps to prevent suicide:
-ask
-call 911
-get an adults involved
-talk to somebody together

CPR:
ABCs of CPR:
Chain of survival: Call 911 and request an AED (Automated External Defibrillator)
Ratio of compressions to breath: 30/2 Thirty to Two

Sally Smith answers:

Looks like you got a study guide in class, dont know the answers, and are too lazy to look it up yourself. Sad thing is, you could have used a dictionary or your text to find all the answers in less time than it took you to type all that in!