Your Questions About Anger

Sandy asks…

What is the healthier way to handle anger?

Please help me especially with #2, and give advice on #3 your better way in handling angers.

1. Pretend to be nice and nothing happen. Never release my anger and let the anger sink deep down to my heart?

2. Immediately confront the person that you angry at (this is the one I fear the most, as I seldom try this, as what I feared the most is that I might became over reacts).

3. Your way that you found to be the best way handling your anger.

Many thanks in advance.

Sally Smith answers:

None of the above. Anger is a normal, healthy animal response to feeling threatened, injured, or hurt. Anger and frustration feel the same, but have different roots and merit different responses. Note the difference between *feeling* angry and *expressing* anger.You can control the second, but not the first. So…

4. Learn how to tell anger from frustration. When you feel anger, breathe well, and calmly ask yourself “Am I feeling hurt, or threatened?” Then ask: “What do I need to do – (a) vent about my hurt, or (b) protect myself from the threat (e.g. by calmly asserting boundaries and consequences)?

Donald asks…

What are your thoughts on anger serving as a reminder to act with compassion?

It takes self awareness of course, but do you think anger can act as a reminder to not surrender yourself to your emotions and let them completely dictate your actions?

I mean how often have you acted in anger and ended up regretting it later?

Sally Smith answers:

Anger is a healthy emotion when challenged, channeled and used to build character. Thomas Edison discovered electricity because he got angry with the gas company. I bet they regretted stirring him up.

We must remember when we are angry we are at our weakest. We need to channel that emotion instead of releasing it in a negative and ultimately self damaging way. 

Robert asks…

How can I deal with my anger in a healthy way?

Me and my mom fight a lot and when she yells I really want to yell back at her but I know that’s not a good way to get out my anger. It’s really hard not to though. I’ve tried punching pillows, doing jumping jacks, distracting myself with music but I need a way to deal with a anger besides crying and yelling.

Sally Smith answers:

You should talk it out with someone! Keeping your emotions in is unhealthy, and can make it harder to deal with. Just try taking a walk to clear your mind, and start writing about what’s going on in your mind. For me, writing helps me feel better, like I can just let out my feelings, and no one will know. But talking to someone will be beneficial to you. For example..try a friend, teacher, or school counsellor. If you really trust them, it will only be between you and them! Also, try calmy approaching your Mom when she doesn’t seem angry, and try to understand why she gets mad at you constantly. But give her some space. If she doesn’t feel like talking, back away, and try another time. Just try to work it out with your Mom too! Good luck!

John asks…

How do you deal with the anger that comes from dealing with homosexuality?

I absorb and release alot of anger from dealing with homosexuality. My friendships are plummeting downhill and I don’t know what to do. Yes, my friends know I’m gay, but that doesn’t help me. What can I do to stop this anger so i can focus on becoming straight?

Sally Smith answers:

Am I getting this right.? You are saying that you are gay but you want to focus on becoming straight? I need to break something to you. You can’t “focus” on becoming straight. If you are gay…you’re gay. There is nothing wrong with that. I know that our society is still a long way from accepting people the way that they are but you are the last one who should get mad or angry about being the way God made you. Try not to be hard on yourself and please don’t let our current society sway your view about living a peaceful life and accepting who you are. Smile and stop wasting all of that “angry” energy for nothing. Have a wonderful next moment. By the way…if your friends accept you, then you have some really wonderful friends. If they don’t…let them hit the highway.

Your Questions About Weight Loss Foods

Sandy asks…

what are some healthy weight loss foods?

i work out from 2 hours a day id just like to know what foods to eat if i wanted to lose weight. like, whats healthy? veges grilled chicken and fish….any ideas?

Sally Smith answers:

Pretty much all vegetables are good. Some have a little more calories than others but generally they have few calories and lots of fiber. Also, if you like bread or pasta, try to eat whole wheat and make sure they don’t just “contain” wheat but actually are whole wheat. They not only have fiber and less processed grains, but whole wheat has been found to have other health benefits as well. Try to drink plenty of fluids but not juice or soda. Drink water, and if you don’t like just plain water, drink flavored seltzer waters that don’t have calories or very few. People don’t realize it when they drink all their calories because they don’t feel full. Turkey has less fat than chicken, and make sure you eat baked chicken or saute it in a small amount of olive oil and use seasonings for flavoring (i.e. Spices, garlic, onions, etc.). Try to avoid too much salt because that can make you retain water. You do need some sodium in your diet though. That’s it for now. Good luck.

Laura asks…

What are some good weight loss foods and workouts for guys…?

That has MOOBS! An you want to get rid of them fassssttttt!!
Tell me what food to eat, and which foods not to?
Also, what workout plans should I do and for how long.
MOOBS are [man boobs] for people who may not know.

Sally Smith answers:

Most people claim that “man boobs” are caused by a hormone imbalance… What they don’t realise is that this isn’t the “root cause”. A hormone imbalance doesn’t just happen, something has to trigger it.

Our bodies are made up of over 75 trillion cells. To stay vibrant and healthy they need 3 key elements…

1) Oxygen
2) Minerals
3) Being able to get rid of their waste

Because the western diet and lifestyle is so poor, our cells are seriously deprived (and these are the very building blocks on which we live). As a result some die, but even more worryingly; some mutate. Also, our bodies surround the pollution in fat to protect us from the harm it can cause.

This is the real reasoning for a build up of fat in the chest.

# Here’s the crucial advice – Try this for the next 10 days and judge by your own results…

1) At least 70% of your diet should come from vegetables. The cells in your chest need the minerals to become healthy again.

2) Drink 3-4 litres of pure water a day. Water has been proven to help remove fatty deposits. It also contains essential minerals.

3) Exercise aerobically for at least 20 minutes everyday. Your body has an internal sewage system called the lymph system. However, in order to get all the junk out, it needs to be manually pumped through deep breathing. By doing so, you’re getting oxygen to the cells and getting rid of the waste.

George asks…

Do you know any good specific foods weight loss diets?

Okay so I’m looking for a good effective weight loss diet that involves eating specific foods, I’m not just talking about those basic suggestions about eating fruit and veg and cutting out junk, I need something a bit more specific as exercise isn’t quite doing it for me so does anyone know any specific foods I could eat for a certain amount of time to lose a certain amount of weight?! 

Sally Smith answers:

You’re best off to see a dietitian in regards to this!

Depends what kind of diet you want, there are thousands out there. Do you want a quick two week diet or a long term diet?

Try the heart foundation soup diet, this incorporates veges and fruits and soup one week then introduces carbs the next. Be warned this is a bit like a fad diet, and they don’t really work unless you have super duper amazing will power, to not binge the week after completing it. Your body may also go through shock. It does work initially, I’ve tried it, the hard part is sticking to it and trying to eat healthy after you’ve done the diet. Http://www.everydiet.org/diet/sacred-heart-diet

Don’t give up on the execise! It may not be working cause you’re probably eating too much still. If the workouts are too strenuous then just do walking, an hour brisk walking a day is good exercise, walk the dog or the neighbours dog. Walk with a friend, join the gym with a friend so that exercise becomes fun and you want to do it.

Your Questions About Effective Communication Definition

Nancy asks…

For a fifth grader, how is good communaction related to health?

So I have a paper for my health class with a question I don’t understand. Here is the question, can you explain it to me?: Imagine you are teaching a fifth grader about health. Write a paragraph for the fifth grader that explains why effective communication is related to health. Include a definition of”effective communication” in your paragraph. SO what i don’t under stand is why is effective commutation realted to health for a fifth grader.

Sally Smith answers:

Well to remain healthy you need to start at a young age. Effective communication is when 2 or more people are communicating and everyone understands and has their own input. Maybe you need to write about effective communication between doctors and patients. If a patient does not communicate what symptoms are then his health could be in jeopardy.

Therefore effectively communicating with your doctor will help keep you healthy.

Ken asks…

Difference between Rhetoric and Persuasion?

What is the difference between the two? Is Rhetoric just effective communication skills or is it synonymous with persuasion? They seem very similar and the definitions I’m finding don’t really make sense.

Sally Smith answers:

There is a great deal of overlap in meaning with the words “rhetoric” and “persuasion.” Rhetoric must be in written or verbal form, and yes, it is a tool used for persuasion. Rhetoric is more of a literary term, and it is used in more formal situations. Rhetoric is often used to get someone to share (or at least consider) your viewpoint; it is about influencing what someone thinks. Persuasion includes that same concept, plus it can be about getting someone to actually take action or do something for you.

Rhetoric (noun)
Definition:
1. Persuasive speech or writing: speech or writing that communicates its point persuasively

Now, consider what you know about persuasion and how you get others to do what you want them to do. Often this is accomplished in verbal form (like rhetoric), and sometimes for more official situations it is accomplished in written form (like rhetoric). However, even children quickly learn how to persuade their parents and their caretakers. You might persuade someone through your actions using some of these examples:

gifts, favors, bribes
smiles, kind looks, endearing looks
pleading looks
frowns, pouting, or sad looks
crying or displaying tears
screaming or tantrums
taking someone by the hand and leading them where you want to go
tugging on someone’s arm, clothing, etc.
Gesturing with the hands to indicate you want something to be given to you

As you can see, persuasion encompasses a broader range of options. Rhetoric is the tool you would use for persuasion in literary situations, but there is a wide variety of tools available in more casual or everyday situations.

Persuasion (noun)
Definition:
1. Act of persuading: the act of persuading somebody to do something

Paul asks…

I need help for my Health and Wellness Class.?

I made a studyguide, but I don’t know some of the answers? Most of it is just definitions…Here’s a Copy of it:

Health and Healthy Life Long Behaviors:
Health Literacy:
Health Triangle:
-A.
-B.
-C.
Factors that influence your health:
1.
2.
3.
Reliable Sources for health information:
Skills for Effective Communication and Conflict Resolution:
1. 1.
2.2.
3.3.
4.
5 steps to successful decision- making skills:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Long Term and Short Tem goals:
Steps to accomplish goals:
Terms:
Prevention:
Heredity:
Environment:
Culture:
Advocacy:

Physical Fitness:
Steps to take before, during, and after physical activity:
R.I.C.E.: Rest. Ice. Compression. Elevation.
F.I.T.T.:
5 elements of fitness:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
BMI:
Factors that influence BMI:
3 Tests to measure your body fat and muscle ratios:
BMR: Basil Metabolic Rate
Terms:
Dehydration:
Hypothermia:
Frostbite:
Dislocation:
Fractures:
Muscle strains:
Sedentary Lifestyle:

Nutrition:
Simple Carbohydrates:
Complex Carbohydrates:
Benefits of a high fiber diet:
A.Lowers cholesterol level
B.HDL and LDL
C.Prevent Constipation
D.Controls Diabetes
E.Prevents Heart Disease
Carbohydrates are converted into glucose to be used by the body for energy
After eating, glucose levels will rise
Food Pyramid:
A.Fats (you should eat less of these)
B.Milk and dairy
C.Fruits and vegetables
D.Breads and grains (you should eat more of these)
E.Meat and protein
Complete protein: has all 20 amino acids
Incomplete protein: missing 9 amino acids
One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories
Another name for fat is Lipids
3 eating disorders:
A.Annorexia
B.Bulimia
C.Over- eating
Proteins = 4 calories
Carbohydrates = 4 calories
Fat = 9 calories
Six Main Nutrients:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
Terms:
Anemia: low on iron
High Blood Pressure: Blood contracts hard
Sodium: salt
Protein functions:
Calcium Functions:
Lactose Intolerant: allergic to milk
Obesity: way over weight
Saturated Fats: come from plants and is liquid at room temperature
Unsaturated Fats:
Transfats: hydrogenated fats
Hydrogenation:

Sexual Health:
Male
Testes:
Scrotum:
Sperm Cells:
Semen:
Vas Deferens:
Ejaculation:
Testosterone:
Prostrate Gland:
Hernia:
Jock Itch:
Sterility:

Female
Ovum:
Fallopian Tubes:
Uterus:
Cervix:
Vaginal- birth Control:
Menstruation:
Estrogen:
Mammogram:
Pap Smear:
Endometriosis:
Infertility:

Abstinence:
Condums:
Barrier Methods of Birth Control:
Horomonal Methods of Birth Conrol:
Spermicidal:

AIDS:
HIV:
HPV (Human Papilloma Virus):
Trichomaniasis:
Chlamydia:
Gonorrhea:
Syphilis:
Vaginitis:
Pubic Lice:

Tobacco, Alcohol, and Drugs:
Nicotine:
Nicotine Substitutes:
Tar:
Smokeless Tobacco:
Mainstream Smoke:
Sidestream Smoke (second hand smoke):
Carcinogens:
Emphysema:
Bronchitis:

Binge Drinking:
Alcohol Poisening:
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome:
Depressant:
Cirrosis:
Alcohol Abuse:
Synergistic Effect:
DUI:
BAC:
Detoxification:
Sobriety:

5 Categories of Drugs:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Methamphetamine:
Hallucinogens:
Barbituates:
Inhalants:
Marijuana:
Designer Drugs:
Ecstacy:
Anabolic-androgenic Steroids:
Club Drugs:

Emotional Health:
Suicide Warnings: FACT:
-Feelings
-Actions
-Changes
-Threats
Myths associated with suicide:
Steps to prevent suicide:
-ask
-call 911
-get an adults involved
-talk to somebody together

CPR:
ABCs of CPR:
Chain of survival: Call 911 and request an AED (Automated External Defibrillator)
Ratio of compressions to breath: 30/2 Thirty to Two

Sally Smith answers:

Looks like you got a study guide in class, dont know the answers, and are too lazy to look it up yourself. Sad thing is, you could have used a dictionary or your text to find all the answers in less time than it took you to type all that in!

Your Questions About Self-esteem

Joseph asks…

How can I incorporate self-esteem into a biology lesson?

I need to formulate a lesson plan for a high school biology course that incorporates self-esteem in some way. I wanted to possibly include some of the physiology involved with low/high self-esteem, but all of the resources I’ve come across focus on other aspects of self-esteem. Do you have any ideas for the lesson or resources I could refer to? Thanks!

Sally Smith answers:

Self-esteem is a bit of a squishy science. I think it’s a combination of mood combined with psychological factors.

The psychology is not within the scope of biology, but the many aspects of mood are certainly affected by the health of the human animal.

So I can think of two approaches which would complement one another. . .

1. Study the neurological aspects of self-awareness. I’m not sure where you’d begin with that. Perhaps look at MRI scans of people with different moods and the brain chemistry involved. There is a lot to work with there, but I don’t know how you’d adopt it for a course. Perhaps get into the basics of how the brain functions, and which critical receptors are at play in determining different moods. Look at the role of serotonin and similar. Perhaps study how the various drugs change things in the brain; kids these days could benefit from knowing as much as they can about how both street drugs and prescription pharmaceuticals work. 

2. Look at how nutrition and environmental factors (toxins in water, food, etc.), and general health can affect awareness, energy levels and neurology. I believe even light is a factor. There is a lot related to mood in even something as basic as eating a hamburger. I know people who turn sad and angry every time they eat fast food or high sugar items. There are sound reasons for this. Look at organic food alternatives to see how they affect the body.

Detoxification is a neat concept. Look at how it can be achieved through sweating, and how toxins and heavy metals are stored in fat cells. Maybe look at how fluoride affects the pineal gland, (which is the producer of melatonin in the brain, which affects sleep and dream states). I read a story which described how Nazi prison camps experimented with introducing different substances into the drinking water to make prisoners docile and easy to bully. Fluoride topped the list as the most effective. (I don’t know how much self-esteem one can have when drugged into docility.)

Self-esteem is linked to sound mental health, which in turn is linked to sound physical health.

It’s a very clever course you are investigating. There is tons of this stuff and it is absolutely fascinating. You can really help your kids by teaching this kind of course.

Kudos, and good luck!

Michael asks…

How can i increase my self esteem and feel better about myself?

I have a low self esteem. Even when i succeed in something i still do not feel happy about myself. This occurs to me a lot especially in the case of dating (for me it’s the best thing in life to love somebody). Example: I say to myself “who wants to date me i’m not cute”, “girls probably think i’m gay” and many other low self esteem things. Can anybody help?

Sally Smith answers:

Start by making a list of all of the things you like about yourself, and taping it up somewhere that you will see it everyday. Then, anytime you think something negative about yourself, replace it with one of the things you have written down. Over time, it will become like a second nature to compliment yourself when feeling down.

Find something that you are really good at, and that you feel good about yourself while doing it, then plan events or hanging out around that one thing. For example, say you are really good about bowling and when you bowl you feel awesome about yourself. Invite some people that make you feel GOOD about yourself, to go bowling with you. It is much easier to be confident and more social when you are doing something that makes you feel good about yourself.

Also, do something like get a haircut, get a manicure or pedicure, or get a new outfit! It’s amazing what a confidence boost you get from any of these things. 

Remember that you are beautiful inside and out no matter what people might tell you or what you think of yourself. Hold your head held high and think about all of the things YOU love about yourself. Stand your ground and stay true to yourself and what you believe in. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself and confident. Don’t waste your time on those who make you feel bad!

“Always wear an invisible crown on your head” – Author Unknown

Carol asks…

How to build self esteem when are you being put down constantly?

I have a low self esteem which I want to work on improving. How do you block out the negative things people say about you.

Sally Smith answers:

When someone says something negative to you, turn it around in a positive. Like if someone says,”Ooh, your shoes are so ugly.” Turn around and say, “That’s fine but they’re Coach and cost $200 more than yours.” Or you could say, “I didn’t buy them for you to like, that’s why they’re on my feet.” Be nice but smart at the same time. Think of it as they are looking for ways to build their self-esteem because of how insecure they are with themselves, that’s why they look for ways to put others down. Have a sense of pride within yourself, say that you’re beautiful and no one is the judge of that but yourself! Good Luck!

John asks…

How do you cure non existant self esteem?

I’m 29, but I’ve had self esteem issues from I was a child, It has effected every area of my life. My low self esteem has ment I have achieved nothing in my life, I suppose I have always felt like I don’t deserve to have what I want in life. Can a low self esteem be cured? Especially one that I have had for so long.

Sally Smith answers:

It isn´t something that can be overcome quickly. You need to find something that you are really good at and concentrate on that area, after which you can expand your interests

Your Questions About Obesity

Mark asks…

How did Obesity begin to affect the united states?

I need some information but I dont want to use the web because I need to cite the information. how did obesity begin in united states? how does obesity affect people psychologically?

Sally Smith answers:

You are using the web & you cannot offically use me as a reference. I suggest that you look up articles & medical journals, which you can find on the web.
Here’s where I would start:
Fast food, the cost of fast food is cheaper sometimes and more convenient.
Video Games- Children aren’t as active and do not get enough exercise.
Generational obesity & disease (diabetes).
Good luck! 

Nancy asks…

What body parts are affected by obesity?

I need the scientific names of the parts.

Ideally, I would like the names of the fats that get really large, etc… I know about the heart and kidneys and stuff, but I need the names of the fats that directly get really large due to obesity. The scientific names of the fat sections/tissues please. Thanks!

Sally Smith answers:

Not sure if fats can get bigger(other than longer chain length), fat cells and fat tissue can get larger.

Triacylglycerol is the scientific name of fats. Adipose tissue is the bodies fat storage site.

Just wiki those two and you should be able to find the info you want. Or wiki fat.

On re-reading the question: you legs will be affected; increased weight means increased pressure on joints. Skin will be affected; fat folds can get skin sores in their creases from friction. The whole body will be fed with less oxygenated blood as it has to work much harder to get through the circulatory system due to compressed and clogged vessels.

Sandra asks…

What are some ways to decrease obesity in children?

If you notice, more and more children are becoming obese. In fact, children are expected to live five years less than their parents because of obesity. In fact, a stunning 17% of kids aged 2-19 years old in the USA are obese. What are some ways to implement change in nations where there are fast food chains on every block?
Should a really abuse child be concidered as ‘neglected’?
I meant should obesity in children be concidered neglect.

Sally Smith answers:

I don’t think obesity in a child should be considered neglect on the part of the parents. I’m not trying to say obesity is a wonderful thing or parents don’t have a responsibility to their children. Maybe these parents make bad choices for their kids in letting them become obese—parents make bad choices all the time—but a mistake isn’t necessarily a crime. I’d be inerested to see how many of the 17% (a stat I’m hesitant to accept unconditionally) have parents who are obese as well.
As far as what people can do when “there are fast food chains on every block” (not to mention processed food for sale in supermarkets) is to be more aware of the food that they buy. Do things like check the nutritional content on the back of the items—how many calories of fat, how much is trans fat, how much sodium etc. Also, stop buying stuff like soda, junk food—or, like my parents did, just buy one dessert or other snack while everything else is healthy.
Finally–and this can be a bit difficult when people are always working—COOK YOUR OWN FOOD. At least then you’ll know what goes into what you and your kids are eating.

Ruth asks…

What is a good way to prevent obesity through school lunches?

I need a good way to prevent obesity for students (food-wise)
I already though of removing vending machines and making healthier lunches, but I need just one more solution.
I’d appreciate your help!

Sally Smith answers:

Our local schools have sugar laden chocolate milk, strawberry milk and whole milk as milk choices with lunch. If yours does also, simply offering only low fat and skim milk would be a suggestion. Getting rid of desserts other than fresh fruit (and possibly canned fruit packed in juice only, no sugar) with school lunches would be another.

Your Questions About Higher Self Manifestation

Chris asks…

“The Gnostic Christians saw Eve and Adam as the two necessary parts within each human. Adam represented the soul, ones consciousness, and Eve represented the spirit. Adam represented the intellectual functions of the personality, while Eve represented the spiritual consciousness, ones higher self. Their sacred marriage was necessary to create the perfect whole. According to the gnostics Eve gives life to Adam, not the other way around, as she is the creative/creator energy, the life giver.
In Sumeria around 3,500bce, the last Matriarchal era, the serpent symbolised regeneration and eternal life. It represented not only the earthly cycle of life but spiritual renewal also. In these times property and the family name was passed through the woman. Women were equal both politically and socially, and held authoritative positions in the temples as Priestesses.
Unfortunately, at the turn of the patriarchal era, a cycle that occurs every 2000 years, the energies became more masculine, changing the way men viewed women. With political manipulation, the Hebrews and Christians concocted the story of Eve eating a forbidden fruit, blaming her for the downfall of mankind, and plunging all her descendents into an Earthly life of toil and struggle, and cursing all women with the pain of childbirth. Eve was portrayed as a weak willed woman, the source of ‘original sin’, and her snake energy was transformed into the manifestation of the ‘devil’. This effectively severed women from their powerful snake energy, and ensured that they would turn away from their own powerful feminine energy. Eve was now portrayed as a sexual temptress, and men were forbidden to associated with the Priestesses of the temples, for worshipping the feminine, the goddess, was also forbidden. Where priestesses had once celebrated the sexual creative force of the goddess by making love in the temples, sacred sexuality was now looked upon as shameful and sinful.”
“The name ‘Eve’ means ‘life’, ‘life-giver’ or ‘the mother of all living’. Her name was derived from the Hebrew name Chivim, which means sons of the female serpent.”
“The Mother Goddess was identified with the figure of a single snake. Her messenger, Hermes the snake God, was depicted as the double snake, the male and female (Ida & Pingala of the Kundalini system). He was symbolised by the Caduceus. Hermes was originally a Babylonian God, a god of Spring and fertility, and was associated with the Spring sun. Here we see the link once more with Aubury – the Serpent Sun.”

Better truths……………LOL
For those of us with Royal Blood, the life giving blood of the Goddess; fear does not circulate within our bodies nor our minds, negativity is the blood of demons, of that we do not drink.

Sally Smith answers:

It is not the whole snake that got demonized, because the snake has two aspects, the descending and the ascending. It is the descending aspect that got demonized. The ascending aspect is generally known as Kundalini. The descending aspect is known as Kundabuffa.

John asks…

More thoughts in question to be speculated and answered perhaps on “polarity”?

As a human, belief may not be worth fighting over in it’s intellectual form, where we intercept it as intellect only. That’s not important, whatever makes you happy, what ever makes you secure you’re entitled to that. If reality is a mirage, it’s a mirage either way, whatever you take security in is good, I want you to be happy, I want you to be secure, I want you to be inspired, what ever inspires you, science, math, whatever.

I want you to be happy, expressive, beautiful, you aren’t harming any one else as long as you have a high positive polarity.

What I’ve noticed of many argument, it created a impractical balance of ying and yang because you’re from a point of manifestation within self concept and I’m trying to relate my own personal self manifestation of self concept as a contrast, rather than a comparison, where we can find some form of equality and find peace. As the op art is breathe in , breathe out. The polarity is in and as out. The mind is choice, observation in and out. In and out. And the out and in which is a warp. XD!!!

op art in, op art out polarity , ying / yang emotions, intention, hopes, inspiration,

Creation inspired, creation/. creativity bond.

What seems most important is a positive polarity or positive energy.

The essence within the essence.
You’re beautiful the way you are. Honestly .Please realize how special, beautiful you are, you reflect what’s inside and outside of humanity, just as much as I do. And I am connected to you, respond to you. Answers and questions aren’t really that important, it’s the intent, inspiration, hope, desires behind them. You are beautiful, have good intentions. Beautiful, inside.

You and I, we essence.

And life nourishment, inspiration, actuality after the fact.
Op art spiraling, hypnosis , power of the mind. OVER the mind. God wave.
no, no out and the in which is a wrap. Not funny anymore.
Out and in manifestation!
Op art, possibly God.
Some things we can’t change, alter. But with higher polarity , positive, less insecurities, it couldn’t hurt.
Thank you trying, I know not of meditation personally, only in my philosophies if you could call them philosophies, I can, please do not offend my security of mind, it’s more or less sincere or hopes to be sincere.

Thanks for sharing! I would love to try meditation again, or for the first time as it may be successful.
I mean thank you, trying meditation. As I’ve put it, you’ve put it. I’ve never tried it successfully.

Sally Smith answers:

The thing about polarity is to realize its basis is in unity. You think the North Pole is in opposition to the South Pole, however, they blend into oneness. It’s like the ant who is walking between the grains of salt and pepper, it sees the black and white grains; however, on a much larger scale there is little differentiation and at best they’d look like rather greyish grains anyways.

In your times of Meditation you can reach out and feel Life’s oneness; duality is resolved in union with Spirit. Man’s intellect functions in the world of duality, but Spirit is One Whole.

Maria asks…

I read a nice article,if u have time read it,Just wanted to share,it’s about “pure consciousness”

When the Buddha announced his impending exit from the sphere of mortality, his dear disciple Ananda burst into tears. “Lord, you have been the polestar of our spiritual path so far. Whom should we contact for guidance and higher instructions when you will not be there in the land of the living?” he asked.

The Buddha replied: Atmadeepo bhava – Be light unto yourself.

Your wavering, questioning self must be silenced at the still point of concentrated consciousness. Amidst the darkness of worldly delusion only the emanation of radiance from within – like the full moon – can bring enlightenment. Guru Purnima symbolises emanation of inner illumination, the awakening of the sleeping Buddha within.

In the Bhagavad Gita, Krishna advised his dear disciple Arjuna: “Lift yourself up with the help of your self ”. You are your best friend, philosopher and guide, at the same time you can be your worst enemy as well. Arjuna was never advised to seek refuge in a guru. Rather, he was advised to rise above all religious rituals and seek refuge in Him, the embodiment of eternal Being, the pure Consciousness, and real Self behind the apparent ripples of delusion.

The concept of seeking the light within is perfectly in tune with scientific spirituality. Whenever we sincerely seek intuitive guidance from within we create a magnetic pool to attract the requisite energy vibrations of infinite potentiality hidden within us. Each soul is potentially divine and we need to awaken this divinity through concentrated efforts and continuous aspiration. This is spirituality. No one else can make us gain the same; we need to source it from inside.

In the Mahabharata, when Dronacharya refused to accept Eklavya as his disciple, the boy made an image of Dronacharya and started practising archery in front of the image. Consequently, he mastered the art of archery as good as Arjuna who was the best direct disciple of Dronacharya, through assiduous practice and intuitive skills. The secret lies in intense aspiration leading to requisite release of the potential hidden within through the psychology of faith in a guru despite the physical absence of the guru in the learning process.

Aurobindo had an experience in cosmic consciousness due to his intense aspiration and soul searching. He never had a guru. Although he received instructions on yoga from Bhaskar Lele, he never accepted him as his guru and his teachings did not lead him to self-realisation.

A true guru can be instrumental in transformation of our ego into divine self and release of divine consciousness through the mechanism of faith. But the dogmatic claim of the essentiality of a guru in the spiritual path falls apart on closer scrutiny. The life of the Buddha, Christ, Ramakrishna, Aurobindo, Ramana Maharshi and others bear ample testimony to the fact. Guru Purnima, therefore, is an occasion for awakening of our inner illumination in full beam for manifestation of the divinity already within us.

Sally Smith answers:

Enjoyed. Thank you. =)

Donna asks…

What is your diagnosis? Should I see my psychiatrist again?

I’d like to try and keep this as brief and blunt as possible, so to cut a long story short:

Around a year ago, I was referred to a professional psychiatrist by my GP, on behalf of the fact that I was severely suffering from anorexia due to feelings of intense ‘diagnosed’ depression and suicidal tendencies.

Reluctantly, I obliged; but in retrospect, I realize that I was not conforming to my Doctor’s instructions to gain professional mental help in order to gain some level of emotional stability and sanity – in fact, I complied merely as I was feeling arrogant of my daily routine, and quite fancied the idea of having an excuse to disrupt previous engagements at the call of an ‘anonymous’ appointment. Basically, I wasn’t obliging due to some mechanical, cognitive drive to relieve my illnesses – it was apathy.

Well, I attended my first appointment: I found no personal errs between me and my psychiatrist, instead, I found her to be ‘unfitting’ for my situation, and so became distinctly aloof, diverting the conversation drastically at any given opportunity in order to throw her as far off the scent as possible.

I feel so puerile to remember it now, but I spent the best part of six months performing this act, every Thursday at four o’ clock – and all the while, I was still wallowing in my frustration with an empty stomach. After all, she was only trying to help.

Fatigued with the effort of apathy one evening, I decided to quit my counseling appointments. My psychiatrist was discontented by this, and decided – after much convincing! – that she would keep my case open for future opportunity.

Fast forward two months later, and my situation seems to have worsened impeccably. I won’t go into the grotesque details, but let’s just say that I was definitely a mess. Due to a particularly stressful period that I foreshadowed in the coming months, I made the brash decision to inquire to my Doctor about the anti-depressants that I had been offered twice before.

Fidgeting anxiously in the Doctor’s chair, I imagined that it would all be so quick, succinct – that he would just simply sign a slip and whisk me off to the chemist to retrieve my medication like the faithful and needy canine that I felt. But no; he began to quiz me, and before I realized, he astounded me with the knowledge that he would be referring me back to my old clinic, only this time, I was to be in the hands of a more qualified, higher-level psychiatrist.

I knew that the prospect of medication would never have washed my problems away, but I just wanted nullification. I didn’t want to begin to discuss my truest, most intense and vulnerable feelings – I wanted to pretend that I was an asexual alien, and isolate myself from any physical manifestation that should stumble across my path and attempt to extract me from my self-imposed gloom, like some nocturnal specimen.

However, I did attend the first appointment with my new psychiatrist.

Upon arrival, I was particularly irritated at the garish presence of my old psychiatrist, whom upon seeing me, allowed her untrained features to unfold a look of inquisitive discomfort at my state. Three whole hours I spent droning. I could barely answer a meager question without my rash abashment flaring up malignantly in my voice.

When I was finally allowed the luxury of leaving that humid room, the only calculated thoughts that I could bear to muster were, “I’m done.” And I was. The next day, I rang my psychiatrist and quit for the second time. At this time, I was foolishly convinced that I was going to be alright – that I had cracked some kind of code to self-enlightenment or something.

And everything was alright for a while. I pushed all negative and self-depreciating thoughts to the darkest orifice of my cerebral cavity, I abstained from direct self-harm (asides from starvation) and I ignored my own intuition, numbing myself with simplicities.

At one point, I even began to watch the programs that I had enjoyed as a small child again, because I felt that that was the closest that I could get to freedom within myself.

It didn’t last for long – you know what they say: after a period of still, there always must commence an explosion; and that’s exactly what has happened to me.

At the moment, I am just trying to muster the strength to cope with each day as it comes to me in the first breaths of morning light. I have been depleted to the state where I almost never leave the paranoia of my own home, I find it difficult to maintain personal hygiene, I never eat asides from wild moments of bulimic frenzy, and I have managed to isolate myself from everyone whom I know.

This is no way to live – and I don’t want this. It isn’t good enough for me to just ignore these intense feelings that I have, because that way, I will never allow myself to move ahead.

P.S. Apologies; this was supposed to be short, direct and to-the-point – but I am forever being carried off by my atrocious stream of thought.

Sally Smith answers:

You seem to be a thinker who needs to know why things are the way they are. I mean you could just live; do as others do, as you are told, play dumb, subject yourself to the will of others, ignore your own mind – it may be just a phantom ego. 

I believe you are an existentialist thinker, or of that type. Eat, exercise and read. Understand that nobody will understand you – not even yourself, not yet. You are asking the big questions; where am I? What am i? How can i behave? What is freedom? What is the nature of my reality?

You can answer these and have what you want but you must give and serve first and be discreet with your own desires – it is the way of the world. First we work to push the rock up the hill then we get to watch it roll down again. And then we start again – it is absurd – that must be accepted.

You will make a great intellectual but don’t ignore your personality; smile, joke, laugh, cry, trick, treat and don’t be offended, don’t take yourself so seriously or judge people by their covers.

You have time to get to know the place and other people – look inside yourself for patience and good habits. Don’t let psychiatry swallow you up – take care of your health.

You should not bail out, not now, not ever – switch off that option – it is a pseudo choice. You write well but you can write better. Stay around join the collective. I will be happy to provide you with a book title for this time in your life – just ask or choose for yourself. There is something to be found.

Your Questions About Anger Quotes

Sandy asks…

harry potter quotes that anger christan’s?

what are some quotes from harry potter that would anger christan’s? From the books please!!!!!!!

Sally Smith answers:

It isn’t quotes that is the issue, it’s that the idea of magic and the idea of religion do not coincide. The ones who are offended seem to have no understanding of the words “fiction” and “fantasy”. Or possibly fiction and fantasy hit too close to home in some of the religions. Research “Dianetics” if unsure of that point.

Betty asks…

I have given below some quotes on anger.

Here are some quotes on Anger:

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson.

To belittle is to be little.
– Unknown.

Never write a letter while you are angry.
– Chinese Proverb.

Be careful of the words you say,
And keep them soft and sweet;
For you never know from day to day,
Which ones you’ll have to eat.
– Unknown.

Just as war is more the absence of love than the presence of hate, and darkness is the
absence of light, a negative attitude is the absence of a positive one.
– Unknown.

The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to
them; that’s the essence of inhumanity.
– George Bernard Shaw.

Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind.
Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.
– Buddha.

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
– Chinese Proverb.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.
– Seneca.

Anger: an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than on anything on
which it is poured.
– Seneca.

Anger is like those ruins which smash themselves on what they fall.
– Seneca.

Anger begins with folly and ends with repentance.
– Pythagoras.

Treat anger like gold. Spend it wisely or not at all.
– Grandfather.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone
else; you are the one who gets burned.
– Buddha

A man makes inferiors his superiors by heat; self control is the rule.
Anger is an uncontrollable feeling that betrays what you are when you are not yourself.
Anger is that powerful internal force that blows out the light of reason.
Know this to be the enemy: it is anger, born of desire.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

I was angry with my friend
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.
A Poison Tree
– William Blake

Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make
yourself as you wish to be.
– Thomas a Kempis

Sally Smith answers:

Good quotes!

Maria asks…

can you please post some thoughts or quotes about love and anger?

both love and anger should come in the same thought

Sally Smith answers:

Love quotes
1.Love is like swallowing hot chocolate before it has cooled off.         2. Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.
3.The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness which becomes at times almost insupportable.
4.Love is like a piece of art work, even the smallest bit can be so beautiful.
5.I love you; not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.,
6.I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach.
7.The closer I’m bound in love to you, the closer I am to free.
8.Those who love deeply never grow old.
9.Love is just a word until it is proven to you.
10.In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
11.Love and marriage, love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage.
12.Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.
13.True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights.
14.We can only learn to love by loving.
15.Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.

Anger quotes
1 How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it. Marcus Aurelius 
2.Anger is a prelude to courage. Eric Hoffer (1902-1983) 

Your Questions About Effective Communication

Jenny asks…

Do you prefer to communicate verbally, with words, music, art, or through writing?

Why? And which of these techniques of communication is most effective for letting people know how you feel?

Sally Smith answers:

My preferred methods are verbal and writing. Both have pros and cons. And, as far as total overall effectiveness, they seem to be more profound. Words, in letter or in person, convey three things:

1. Meaning
2. Intent
3. Idea

Other methods are fine, but as far as building and establishing a relationship goes, verbal and writing seem to be more effective for me. The power of the word can’t be taken lightly.

Which one I use all depends on what I am trying to accomplish. If I’m trying to communicate my thoughts, feelings, or ideas to someone who isn’t interested, or who tends to interrupt or argue, I will write them a letter. If you struggle using words on the fly, feel the need to think about them, erase them, alter them, or add to them, then the letter is the best method. If you are a fairly good word-smith and understand the techniques of communication, then I prefer verbal communication. There is more to be gained from verbal communication, but it is also the most dangerous. Saying something in a slightly wrong way can create a massive misunderstanding. It is easier to lose control of yourself and begin to yell, argue, or fight. It is easy to give the wrong impression if you struggle with expressing your emotions

Either way, communication is an art form. There are ways and methods to draw someone into a conversation, get them on your side, or even get them willing to listen.

John asks…

HELP! Can you help me to “EDIT” the following paragraph..?

I am writing a law personal statement for recognizing my legal credentials in Canada. This is my introduction paragraph. I feel that the second sentence may need some editing. Thanks.

Other versions of the second sentence:

1) “I am skilled in applying effective listening and communication techniques to problem-solving situations.”
- but this sentence does not identify the aspects of applying listening and communication skills to finding solutions for problems

2) “I have the ability to apply consistent listening and communication skills to effectively resolve problems.”
- if included, then this seems like the 3rd sentence is somewhat repeated at the end. It may give an uneeded repetitive flow to the reader.

‘INTRODUCTION’
“I view a career in law as the appropriate step in helping solve conflict in society. I have the ability to find an effective solution for a problem by applying consistent listening and communication skills. I enjoy puzzling together facts of a situation and finding the missing links to effectively solve a problem. I have a strong sense of perseverance that is essential towards achieving short-term and long-term goals. Through hard work and dedication, I am looking forward to a future career within the area of law.”

Sally Smith answers:

Maybe try “By applying consistant communications skills I have the ability to resolve problems.”

I think your problem with the sentence may be adding in “listening” because it is a communication skill.

I would also consider changing the third sentence to “My strong sense of perseverance ensures I achieve both short and long term goals” Only because you have a lot of “I”‘s starting sentences in the paragraph.

Lastly, it is “I look forward to” within the last sentence because it is more confident – but that is a personal suggestion. The sentence is fine the way it is.

Paul asks…

Answer these Health Questions?

1. Write one short-term goal for enhancing your sense of self, and list all of the
steps necessary to achieve the goal. The steps to your goal must include how
you will deal with the positive and negative influences on your sense of self.

2. Imagine you are teaching a fifth grader about health. Write a paragraph for the
fifth grader that explains why effective communication is related to health. Include
a definition of “effective communication” in your paragraph.

3. Pick a specific mental or emotional problem. List at least 5 signs or symptoms
of that problem. Then list at least 3 actions you would take if a friend showed
these signs. Then write down one reliable source of help you would use if your
friend needed immediate help.

4. Write down one source of stress in your life. List the 3 steps of self-
management, and create a plan to manage that stress in a healthy way. Your
plan should have at least 4 stress management techniques.

Sally Smith answers:

Do your own homework.

Your Questions About Stress Quotes

Steven asks…

What are some good quotes about overcoming stress?

Sally Smith answers:

“Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” Hans Selye

“Pressure and stress is the common cold of the psyche.” Andrew Denton

James asks…

What are some really good quotes on love, life, or stress, any would do?

Sally Smith answers:

“An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.” Mahatma Ghandi

“Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.” James Dean

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” T.S. Eliot

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.” John A. Shedd

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Author Unknown

“I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.”
Abraham Lincoln

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” William Jennings Bryan

“Count the garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall. Count your life with smiles and not the tears that roll.” Author Unknown

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill

“If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart.Then in living – I have made my mark.” Thomas L. Odem Jr

“Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light.” Norman B. Rice

“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.” Elisabeth Foley

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” Les Brown

“You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry.” Author Unknown

“Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.” African Proverb

“He who has nothing to die for has nothing to live for.” Moroccan Proverb

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill

“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha

Some Sites:

http://quotegarden.com/

http://www.brainyquote.com/

http://quotationspage.com/

http://thinkexist.com/

Have a nice day! :)

Michael asks…

What is your best ‘Quotes’ or ‘advice’ when you are in stress or confronting obstacles & enemies ?

Sally Smith answers:

Sometimes the thoughts that I recall when I face stress or fear are corny or funny; but they help me. The following come to mind:

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” Helen Keller

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Helen Keller

“If no one ever took risks, Michelangelo would have painted on the Sistine floor.” Neil Simon

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Theodore Seuss Giesel

“Failure seldom stops you. What stops you is the fear of failure.”
Jack Lemmon

“You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” Wayne Gretsky

“Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even.” Muhammad Ali

Sandy asks…

Do you have any good quotes for “stress”?

I want to make a poster for work. Thank you!

Sally Smith answers:

If it is for work, this will be interesting:-

“The trouble with being in the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.” … Lily Tomlin (b. 1939) U.S. Actress and comedian

This is one of the several stress quotes at http://quotes-motivational-inspirational.blogspot.com

Charles asks…

i like the idea of simple living.i keep a journal of quotes + ways to better my life/less stress/less desire.?

Do you do this or know any practises of simple living.

i do like to travel alot during the year so i wont give that up as i use my travelling to open my mind and view different things. and of course view the beautiful world.
any famous people done this or any books your recommened???

Sally Smith answers:

You might look into the Amish traditions if you like simple living. I don’t necessarily agree with the religion, but the traditions are lovely. I’ve often considered reverting to a simpler way of living, myself.

But I couldn’t live without my computer. I have to be able to write!

Your Questions About Self-confidence

Joseph asks…

How can I project my self confidence without being arrogant?

I’d like to improve the way people view me, and I’d heard that projecting your self confidence can help greatly. Unfortunately, every time I try, when I look back on the attempt, it seems like I’m being arrogant, or just not doing something right. Do you have any ideas on how to improve my ability to project my self confidence, or a list of positive signs of someone with self confidence?

Sally Smith answers:

I think there is way to project self confidence without being rude or arrogant. Here are some thoughts:

- Never be the one to chase after a girl. If you like her, ask her out and she doesn’t respond then move on to the next. If you call her and she doesn’t call back…don’t call back a couple more times. If she doesn’t call back then don’t wait on her

- Smile often and say hello to people…try to be outgoing if you can. Provide compliments to women– you look nice today, your hair is different–looks good, you are wearing a nice perfume, etc. Don’t over-do it, just try making a ior two when you can

- Walk tall and not too fast…don’t strut though. Like a fighter pilot walking out to his plane before takeoff or something…

- Hold doors open for women and smile at them, but then don’t gawk at them….just be polite and then pretend they are not nice looking, you are just being courteous.

- There are a million girls out there and so don’t be in a hurry to find one…if you make yourself really available then women think you are desperate. You do that by taking your time and not jumping at every chance you have to call a girl or talk with her. Just take your time. 

Betty asks…

What is the connection between selfishness and lack of self confidence?

I am trying to find information on the internet about selfishness and self confidence.

I know someone who has low self esteem and low self confidence, and they are bringing it on themselves. They can be very selfish with their family but giving to their coworkers and this doesn’t make sense to me.

They lie about the stupidest things, and when they get caught they make the other person look like the bad one.

When they are selfish, their self esteem and confidence go down and they blame everyone around them.

They misunderstand others when they talk, they get angry easy when a family member tries to explain their bad behavior.

They need recognition and gratitude.

Can you point me in the right direction to a website that talks about this.

I have seen information of lack of self confidence people not being selfish……but is their something about selfishness and knowing what they are doing is wrong, lowering self esteem and confidence.

Thank you…….any thoughts you have and websites I can look at, are gratefully appreciated…..

Sally Smith answers:

The pursuit of self interest is the basis of all human behavior.

Confidence just means you think you are good at the pursuit.

“Selfish” is a VERY poor term.

It describes anti social behavior that is typically NOT in a persons self-interest.

To have confidence WITHOUT competence is NOT good.

The task of education is to create COMPETENCE.
This in turn creates CONFIDENCE.

If you just create CONFIDENCE, you get a bunch of idiots in denial creating havoc.

Richard asks…

Would you say high self-confidence is the key element to superior sports skills and athletic ability?

I’ve noticed the guys (and girls) who are the most athletically talented have really high self-confidence. A lot of athletes (both pro and amateur) say that believing you can do a certain movement is the most important in terms of doing it right. Alternatively, geeks and non-athletic people typically have low self-confidence in many aspects of life, including sports. Is it fair to say that developing high confidence and practicing frequently would make these individuals more athletic?

Sally Smith answers:

That has been true for many situations…

James asks…

How do you gain self-confidence in your appearance when you have already done so much?

How do you gain self-confidence in your appearance when you have already done so much to try to improve your appearance? (contacts, facial products to get rid of acne, a little make-up to hide spots, straighten hair). I don’t know what to else to do and I still feel inadequate sometimes.

Sally Smith answers:

I’m pretty sure that everyone feels this way at some stage in their life. There’s probably not a lot more that you can do except accept yourself for what you look like.

Sandra asks…

What are some little self confidence exercises to do during the day?

In the morning when im getting ready to go to school, im bursting with self confidence, but when i get to school, all the hustle and bustle and cliques and drama make me feel insecure. What can i do during the day to make myself feel better?

Sally Smith answers:

1. Memorize some good quotes/song lyrics with an uplfting message. Maybe put some in your locker.
2. Have something in your locker that makes you feel good about yourself-maybe an award you have won, or a paper you got a good grade on so you can see that you are doing well!!!
3. Wear an item of clothing/jewellery that you think makes you look really amazing, and remeber to look at it during the day and think about how great you look!
4. Don’t look at yourself too seriously in the bathroom mirrors if you are having a bad hair/skin day just remind yourself that the lighting is crappy and you look 10x better in class/hallway!
5. Pick something positive that happened to you that day and concentrate on that.
6. Focus on the little things-some good music on the bus ride to school and seeing a cool poster in the hall can make your day.
7. Compliment someone else-it feels good to see someone else smile and odds are you might get a compliment back!

Good luck! :)