Your Questions About Self-esteem Lyrics

Lisa asks…

What songs help boost your self-esteem?

“Best Thing I Never Had” by Beyonce has helped me a lottt these past couple weeks… :) It’s just a beautiful song, beautifully sung, beautiful lyrics, and I can relate to it. But I’m wondering if there are other songs that help your self-esteem? “Beautiful” by Christina Aguialera is ok… it deson’t sound that great to me, so it doesn’t help me feel better hehe.

Sally Smith answers:

Perfect by P!nk
Keep Holding On by Avril Lavigne
Good Life by OneRepublic
All This Time by OneRepublic
Someone To Save You by OneRepublic
Imperfect Is The New Perfect by Caitlin Crosby
Pop Rocks by Fight Fair
Firework by Katy Perry

We R Who We R by Ke$ha
I’m Awesome by Spose
No Rain by Blind Melon
Ridin’ Solo by Jason Derulo

And one that helps me no matter what is Fame by Irene Cara
Hope I helped you

Your Questions About Quotes About Inner Drive

Paul asks…

Any truth to this? “In Politics, Emotion Trumps Logic In The Brain”?

In Politics, Emotion Trumps Logic In The Brain

If you missed it, the NYT reported that when it comes to politics, logic just doesn’t do it for the brain, and liberals and conservatives equally go emotive and even irrational when put on the political defensive. Maybe that’s why the “reality based community” always seems to come up short in the media, if emotion drives the public dialogue. A bunch of shouting gets better ratings than a talking heads show with lots of light and no heat? More below the fold.

In this article from the News and Observer quoting the Times, we find that MRI scans indicate that when a favored candidate is criticized, the process goes emotive and unconscious, and “the brain’s pleasure centers flare up when unwelcome information is being rejected.” Most cognition uses rationality to deal with contradictions, but evidently not when politics is involved. The study at Emory indicates that both political affiliations judged the other candidate harshly, but let their own skate by, even when their candidate contradicted their own positions. When they read the contradiction,

… researchers measured increased activity in several areas of the brain: a region involved in regulating negative emotions and another that activates when the brain makes judgments about forgiveness, among other things. Also, a spike appeared in several areas known to be active when people feel relieved or rewarded. The “cold reasoning” regions of the cortex were relatively quiet.

Researchers have long known that political decisions are strongly influenced by unconscious emotional reactions. But the new research suggests that for partisans, political thinking is often predominantly emotional.

It is possible to override these biases, Westen said, “but you have to engage in ruthless self-reflection, to say, ‘All right, I know what I want to believe, but I have to be honest.’”

This may be one of the best scientific arguments for a third party that we’ll ever have. That way we couldn’t flip into automatic unconscious binary polarization.

Not just political thought
Submitted by m on Tue, 02/21/2006 – 12:53pm.

Deep seated life views are the basis for our opinions, perceptions and judgments. Logic and reason are used to justify the results and consequences of the lower based reactions, not to create new results.

That such emotional and reflexive reactions make up the overwhelming majority of our choices and opinions is proved daily by the efficacy of marketing processes. And more strikingly by political history, wherein great masses of individuals have been persuaded to sacrifice, suffer and even die for movements that were completely antithetical to their immediate or larger interests.

Those properly trained in the hard sciences know full well how difficult it is to divorce one self from conscious or unconscious preconceived ideas or “desired” outcomes in project design, making observations, selecting data or applicable analytical tests, and of course in interpretation. I use the hard sciences as an example, not to diminish any other area of endeavor, but only because these areas provide the simplest, easiest, and possibly least such influenced areas of study.

The process of changing the inner core is not an easy one. “I wasn’t raised that way” is more often a justification for not thinking, than it is for ethical behavior. Such changes are a major goal of institutions of higher education. Often to the dismay of the parents of the student.

Simply perceiving issues in ones own character or personality is one of great difficulty. Changing acquired habits is beyond the reach of large segments of the population. Intentionally modifying inner core values is ferociously difficult. This probably has strong survival value, even though it contravenes our preferred view of ourselves.

“Re-examine all that you have been told . . . dismiss that which insults your soul.”

— Walt Whitman

When all think alike, then no one is thinking.”

— Walter Lippman

“The most dangerous man to any government is the man who is able to think things out… without regard to the prevailing superstitions and taboos. Almost inevitably he comes to the conclusion that the government he lives under is dishonest, insane, intolerable.”
H. L. Mencken

Sally Smith answers:

A whole lot of truth.

Your Questions About Effective Communication

James asks…

Is Bible Bashing ever effective…?

…or is it just a power trip?

The very first time I ever heard the term “bible basher” was from a Mormon missionary. I had made the decision to leave that religion and was requesting ex-communication (which they never granted me) and I was showing them where their religion was against the Bible and they gave up immediately and said they would not “bible bash” with me.

Then when I took Bible lessions with Jehovah’s Witnesses…I witnessed how they turned bible bashing into an art. It was such a rush for them to have the answer to everything scriptural at the drop of a hat. Like pulling a gun at a showdown. But it seemed to just leave people pissed off.

So, I was wondering if any bible bashers out there ever converted anyone by this practice, or is it a exercise in memory or a kind of contest?

Sally Smith answers:

I suppose the answer would depend upon the weight and acceleration of the bible in question. That and the number of times it is used upon somebody’s forehead. Put it all together and you have power.

No, not effective, a turn-off.

Nancy asks…

pl z help i am new user of human resourse management?

1. Which of the following personality characteristics are associated
with people who are likely to exhibit violent behavior on the job?
a. Neurotic
b. Optimistic
c. Extraverted
d. Type A
2. Which of these suggestions is an effective way to deal with stress?
a. Meditation
b. Exercise
c. Talking with others
d. All of the given options
3. In most large facilities, who is responsible for reducing unsafe
working conditions and reducing unsafe acts by employees?
a. Chief executive officer
b. Chief safety officer
c. Occupational safety and health officer
d. Chief operations officer
4. Who distinguished between intrinsic motivation and extrinsic
motivation?
a. Frederick Taylor
b. Frederick Herzberg
c. David McClelland
d. Edward Deci
5. Which of the following is categorized as an indirect payment
portion of employee compensation?
a. Wages
b. Salaries
c. Employer-paid insurance
d. Commissions
6. Stress can affect not only your health, but also other aspects of your
life. What else can be affected by stress?
a. Family relationships
b. Work performance
c. Your attention to safety
d. All of the given options
7. Unemployment benefits are typically about __________ percent of
a person’s earnings and last for__________.
a. 50; 26 weeks
b. 75; 1 year
c. 100; 2 years
d. 25; 4 weeks
8. Unsafe acts can be reduced through all of the following methods
except:
a. Job rotation
b. Screening
c. Training
d. Incentive programs
9. Which of these is the most common type of retirement plan?
a. Defined benefit
b. ERISA
c. Defined contribution
d. Money purchase plan
10. Which one of the following statements is correct in relation to
monetary rewards in accordance with Herzberg’s Two-Factor
theory?
a. Pay increases are a powerful long-term motivator
b. Inadequate monetary rewards are a powerful dissatisfier
c. Monetary rewards are more important than non-monetary rewards
d. Pay can never be used as a motivator
11. Which pattern of communication is the quickest way to send a
message?
a. The circle
b. The chain
c. The Y
d. The wheel
12. Chronic stress is the stress that wears at people day after day.
Which of these is an example of chronic stress?
a. An unhappy marriage
b. Ongoing money problems
c. Dissatisfaction with a job
d. All of the given options
13. The relative position of an organization’s pay incentives compared
to other companies in the same industry is known as:
a. Pay structure
b. Pay appraisal
c. Pay level
d. Pay feedback
14. Poor quality lateral communication will result in which of the
following?
a. Lack of direction
b. Lack of coordination
c. Lack of delegation
d. Lack of control
15. Which of the following is a health hazard in the work place?
a. Uncollected waste paper
b. Heavy object
c. Frayed crypt
d. All of the given options
16. Managers can motivate people to avoid performing dysfunctional
behaviors by using:
I. Extinction
II. Punishment
III. Negative reinforcement
a. I, II, III
b. I and III
c. II and III
d. I and II
17. Workers’ compensation benefits fall into all of these major
categories except:
a. Medical care
b. Retirement benefits
c. Disability income
d. Death benefits
18. Expectancy theory focuses on the relationships between which
three factors?
a. Needs, effort and persistence
b. Needs, performance and inputs
c. Inputs, performance and outcomes
d. Needs, performance and outcomes
19. A horizontal extension of the object to increase task variety is
called:
a. Job evaluation
b. Job enrichment
c. Job enlargement
d. Job rotation
20. Communication between two members of a project team from
different function, but the same level of authority is ________
communication.
a. UP ward
b. Downward
c. Lateral
d. Diagonal

Sally Smith answers:

Question No.Selected Option
1C
2D
3C
4D
5D
6D
7D
8B
9B
10C
11B
12D
13C
14C
15C
16A
17B
18C
19C
20D

 

Your Questions About Emotional Balance

Mandy asks…

Please help! Doctor apmt in a week!?

Ok, Enough is Enough?
So I have a homeopathic doctor who told me that from my hair follicle test it shows my female system is imbalanced. Long story short, I was prescribed Preseodymium Phosphoricum to balance me out. I have been taking it but for the last 6 mths my mentrual period has been late off and on by a week, two and once I skipped a month. In the midst of all this, I have developed this strange habit of getting this knot in my throat that feels like when you want to cry but you hold back. If I am on the preseodymium phosphoricum the throat issue is gone,…but where is my period? I am 45 days waiting still from the the first day of my last period. I have off and on cramps….some emotional issues but other than that, no period symptoms. I’m just tired of waiting for my period…. Is it possible I am going through pre-menapause? I am not and cannot get pregnant because my boyfriend and I cannot conceive together. Is it the homeopathics? Any HD’s out there?

Sally Smith answers:

My advice is to make an appointment with a General Practitioner at a regular clinic for a diagnosis and/or referral to a regular physician. Homeopathic doctors do not have the broad spectrum of diagnostic tools available to regular doctors. You’re more likely to get a definitive answer and better solution to more serious health problems from a regular doctor. Homeopathic doctors have their niche and serve that niche well, but your problems seem to be beyond the scope of your homeopathic doctor.

Michael asks…

I hate my friend? How to get over envy?

I shouldn’t. I know I shouldn’t but it is very hard not to. I disagree with the education system at my school and often have internal conflicts with my inner rebel and the side that actually wants to get good grades. I usually can dive into a test and at least get an average mark, because I’m a talented writer and I listen in class. But I have a lot of emotional/identity issues, and sometimes breakdowns or introspective deep thought end up screwing with my study habits. My ‘friend’ never does anything but study. She even skips out on compulsory school commitments just to study. All day, she just freaks over work; sometimes homework which is not even significant for marks. So far she has dux for getting A+ in all eight subjects, and every specific award for each of those subjects were given to her. When I try to slowly and calmly revise for a test, she comes and shakes or screams at me over something in work she wants to reassure herself over. I’m trying to give myself life balance and improve my grades again, but when I am around her it is hard not to feel worthless, and guilty. All I hear from her are complaints and wining about homework or assignments. She was angry at me all day on friday because she got an A- in English instead of A+. I am so envious of her achievements and work ethic, yet at the same time I look at her pathetic excuse for a life and feel better… but overall I can’t stop hating her so bad because of school, and I wish she would just leave; even though she hangs with our group and is always patient with me. Now when I do my tests, I just see her face and feel like I am so stupid and can’t even answer anything functionally unless she is not doing the same elective as me.

Sally Smith answers:

I think you should reassure your friend and tell them to just calm down and not rush over everything. You on the other hand are sort of in the same boat. You should try to also keep calm and think about work when it is important to you but not to rush it. Envy… You can always try taking that envy and using it to make you work harder, or try to talk to your friend about it.

I hope I have helped.

 

Your Questions About Stress Relief

Betty asks…

Is there any effective natural stress relief supplements?

Hello, I have been dealing with some stress lately since changing my career path and was wondering if there was any natural stress relief supplements worth trying? I am curious about any supplements, vitamins, or herbs that are effective against stress.

Sally Smith answers:

I had the same problem with stress about a year ago and did a lot of research. I eventually found a natural product with ingredients backed by science. It works by helping to restore your GABA (anti-stress neurotransmitter in your brain) back to normal levels. The main ingredient is L-Theanine which they extract from green tea. The vitamin b6 is used to metabolize l-theanine so it can be used by your body and the magnesium citrate is used to maintain proper muscle relaxation. The mind and body are connected and when one is stressed, the other is too. This product works on both which is the reason why I think it is the one of the best out there.

Mary asks…

What is a good gift to give someone for stress relief?

I was thinking about paying for my mom to get a massage. Do you have any suggestions that might be good for stress relief? Nothing to do with bath scents or anything like that, artificial scents give her headaches.
Thanks for your help! :)

Sally Smith answers:

Massage is very relaxing. I would appreciate that.

I would think about the things that you KNOW make HER relaxed.

Maybe she loves the garden – a hammock could be great.
Does she relax when reading? – a good book.
Take her to the beach or the mountains for a weekend.
Take her to see a film.
Take her and two friends to an open garden and buy them afternoon tea.
Visit for two days and give her breakfast in bed and lovely walks in the
neighbourhood.
Accompany her to church if she is a church goer – singing hymns is relaxing.
Buy her a CD of her favourite music or take her to hear an orchestra.
Teach her to meditate.
Encourage her to have a long bath without scents.
Find a wonderful outdoor nature area within walking distance to her home and encourage her to walk there and spend time each day. Accompany her often.
If there is a particular worry, help her confront it – Does she want to clean out her linen press, clear out a room or swap the car over for example? Help her in a practical sense to set obtainable gaols for these things and to achieve them.

Mark asks…

In meditation for stress relief, is it ok to incorporate a soothing song and jus meditate on the lyrics?

im a Christian and practicing meditation (jus for stress relief not for spiritual purposes) but i find that certain songs are very calming and relaxing when i am stressed and they are Christian songs in worship to God. it is soft slow music and soothing.. is it okay to incorporate this into practical meditation and focus on the lyrics instead of something like my breath or a word or phrase that i repeat?

Sally Smith answers:

If your goal is merely stress relief, anything that relaxes is ‘OK’, whether that is having a walk, do sports or listening to music.
However, often it is at least as important to seriously look at the causes for the stress. Things like listed above of course do not change anything on the causes of stress, so they are merely a temporary ‘fix’.

The original goal of (Eastern) meditation is to learn to understand and control our mind. Stress relief is really a side-effect of meditation and not normally the main goal. Still, when we learn to understand and control our mind, it also becomes easier to relax, and – most important – we will find out about what causes our stress. Once we know the causes, with some mind-control we should also be able to reduce our stress very effectively.

Techniques like Buddhist vipassana meditation etc. Are designed to understand and control our mind, so in the long run they would also prove much more effective in reducing stress then merely listening to music and ‘spacing out’.

 

Your Questions About Self-confidence Quotes

Susan asks…

Please help me with my Self-confidence and self-esteem!?

What is the best ways, tips, quotes to build self-confidence and especially self-esteem? I’m being so paranoid i’m starting to loosing my friends. Please help! Any good ways??

Sally Smith answers:

Honestly, just think positively, constantly…

“Dream as if you will live forever, live as if you will die today.”

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”

Honestly, you’ve only got one life, what have you got to lose? (:
Do things your way, make yourself happier…

Jenny asks…

what are good confidence quotes for girls?

im looking for cute self confidence quotes.. stuff like

im sorry for changing, im sorry it had to be this way, believe me whrn i say its easier to pretend, but i wont apologize for who i am

or

im pretty but im not beautiful, i sin but im not a devil , im good but im not a devil -marylin monroe

or

do t worry when a girl cares too much, worry when she starts to not give a fuck

or

do t ever think ur nothing because somwhere along the time theres goin to be someone who thinka your everythinf

excuse my typing errors, my computer is being stupid. plz help :)

Sally Smith answers:

“Beauty is not in the face, Beauty is a light in the heart”.

“Through experience we learn to grow, in growing we learn to give, in giving we learn to love, and in loving we learn the real essence of life”.

I hope these quotes can help you:)

George asks…

My friend said this? “Botox/silicone= beauty & self confidence.” What do you think about it?

Full Quote : “Botox/silicone= beauty & self confidence. If god truly wanted us to be happy with our natural bodies he wouldn’t have made plastic surgeons.”

How do you feel about this?
Please don’t be overly rude, she’s entitled to her opinion just as you are yours.

Sally Smith answers:

I’m sorry but I’ve seen quite a few women with botox and it looks like they can’t even move their face….and they have no facial expressions when they talk to you….. So no to me it does not make you look beautiful.

Carol asks…

Helen asks…

whats your favorite self confidence quote?

Sally Smith answers:

“What other people think of me is NONE of my BUSINESS.”

— hehe. This quote really boosts up my self esteem. :D

John asks…

Is there a fine variance between self-belief and self-confidence or are the two phrases fully interchangeable?

Do please explain as per your own understanding rather than quote from dictionary etc. that I can of course refer to on my own.

Sally Smith answers:

That’s very interesting…

The two are, in my opinion, interchangeable, but self-belief seems to lend itself more to deep, core, abstract faith and trust. To me, self-confidence, though very similar, is slightly more of a physical manifestation, a determination.

If I say to myself, “I believe in my ability to –”, for some reason I feel it and have faith in it in a different way than if I say, “I am confident that I can –”.

I feel that I can inflate or mask or exaggerate the self-confidence in a way that I can’t do with self-belief — the latter is closer to the core of how much faith I truly do or do not have in myself without false pretense.

And I’m discovering this as I go along, so please forgive if it’s nonsensical…

Your Questions About Overcoming Anxiety

Sandy asks…

Suggestions on overcoming anxiety during a cervix check?

I’m pregnant and due in 24 days. I just went to the doctor, and he tried to check my cervix to see how things are progressing, but I completely freaked out and tensed up and he couldn’t check anything. I know I need to get over this anxiety, because they’re going to need to check my cervix multiple times before I can give birth or even get an epidural. Any advice?

Sally Smith answers:

Oh, I hate those checks! I just tried to take slow, deep breaths, and realize that it will be over, soon… It was uncomfortable (to say the least, sometimes), but it was usually quick… Some nurses were much gentler than my doctor! Maybe find a focal point, and hang in there.

Nancy asks…

Do you know of any good self-help books about gaining confidence and overcoming social anxiety?

Do you know of any good self-help books about gaining confidence and overcoming social anxiety? Thanks!

Sally Smith answers:

Wayne Dyer – Pulling Your Own Strings, Wisdom of the Ages (self awareness and self growth)
The Art and Skill of Conversation – Edward Pritch
How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Ken asks…

What is the value of overcoming anxiety?

Sally Smith answers:

One needs to accept one’s current condition in order to mollify the effects of anxiety.

That acceptance will tend to result in tranquility and contentment if properly implemented.

Maria asks…

What is the best tool you possess/know/use in overcoming low mood and anxiety?

What is the best tool you possess/know/use in overcoming low mood and anxiety?

Sally Smith answers:

I recommend exercise. It’s not a magic bullet, but increasing physical activity is a positive and active strategy to help manage depression and anxiety.

How exercise helps:

Exercise has long been touted as a way to maintain physical fitness and help prevent high blood pressure, diabetes and other diseases. A growing volume of research shows that exercise can also help improve symptoms of certain mental health conditions, including depression and anxiety. Exercise may also help prevent a relapse after treatment for depression or anxiety.

Research suggests that it may take at least 30 minutes of exercise a day for at least three to five days a week to significantly improve depression symptoms. But smaller amounts of activity — as little as 10 to 15 minutes at a time — can improve mood in the short term. Small bouts of exercise may be a great way to get started if it’s initially too hard to do more.

Just how exercise reduces symptoms of depression and anxiety isn’t fully understood. Some evidence suggests that exercise raises the levels of certain mood-enhancing neurotransmitters in the brain. Exercise may also boost feel-good endorphins, release muscle tension, help you sleep better, and reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol. It also increases body temperature, which may have calming effects. All of these changes in your mind and body can improve such symptoms as sadness, anxiety, irritability, stress, fatigue, anger, self-doubt and hopelessness.

If you exercise regularly but depression or anxiety symptoms still interfere with your daily living, seek professional help. Exercise isn’t meant to replace medical treatment of depression or anxiety.

And particularly in winter when light fades early, do try to get outside to exercise. It sounds cliched, but a brisk walk in the fresh air clears your head, gets you some natural light and lifts your mood.

Good luck and remember that there is help out there.

 

Your Questions About Better Relationship Quotes

Joseph asks…

quotes about getting through a tough time in a relationship?

im looking for some good relationship quotes about tough times and making it through them.

Sally Smith answers:

“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” Epicurus

“If a relationship is to evolve, it must go through a series of endings.” Lisa Moriyama

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.” Ursula K. Le Guin

“The art of love … Is largely the art of persistence.” Albert Ellis

“The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress.” Joseph Joubert

“Tolerance and celebration of individual differences is the fire that fuels lasting love.” Tom Hannah

Ken asks…

What are cute/good relationship love quotes?

Well I can’t really find any cute relationship quotes, they can also be like missing you quotes also. Please help me out?

Sally Smith answers:

“It is the things in common that make relationships enjoyable, bit it is the little differences that make them interesting.” Ruthman.

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement…all success… All achievement in real life grows.” Ben Stein.

Jenny asks…

What are some good relationship quotes ?

Sally Smith answers:

“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship”. ~Doménico Cieri Estrada

Mary asks…

good songs or quotes about a relationship falling apart?

me and my boyfriends relationship is falling apart. good quotes and songs about this would be nice to listen to or read. its like he doesnt feel the same anymore. or he is seeing someone else. we have been together for 6 months now.

Sally Smith answers:

“After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breath and reboot.” – Sarah Jessica Parker

“Sometimes things fall apart so other things can fall into place.” – Debra Roberts

“When everything else falls apart and crumples away…. Your will and soul is still there.” – Bradley Adam Henderson

“I never fall apart because I never fall together.” – Andy Warhol

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe

“We need others. We need others to love and we need to be loved by them. There is no doubt that without it, we too, like the infant left alone, would cease to grow, cease to develop, choose madness and even death.” – Leo F. Buscaglia

“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.” – Benjamin Franklin

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation…” – Oscar Wilde

“Don’t flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

“What loneliness is more lonely than distrust?” – T.S. Eliot

“Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words” – Dr. Joyce Brothers