Donna asks…
my bf is not givin me much importance to my anger coz m calm gal but still i want him to c to my anger.wt 2do?
he gives his al excuses n makes my anger useles or cuts d topic tellin his loads, i also want importance of my anger,instead he always gets angry i convince him coz i dnt wanna loose him still i want myslf different importance for my reasonable anger….
Sally Smith answers:
Write him a letter explaining your point of view. Or an e-mail.
Ken asks…
If there is no karma then how else do we learn the importance of love, compassion, tolerance for all?
Most of us don’t really learn unless we get a dose of our own medicine.
If we treat others with hatred, cruelty, intolerance (eg. homosexuals, other races, etc) then how will we know what it feels like unless we reincarnate as them and face the same treatment? Only then will we learn the real importance of tolerance.
Similarly do we learn the importance of love, compassion, honesty, integrity, justice, peace, friendship, family, kindness etc. And the futility of anger, hatred, war, jealousy, greed, etc – after many lifetimes of difficult experiences.
Sally Smith answers:
I do think that there is a practical, real life phenomenon of “what goes around comes around.” Typically those who make the lives of others miserable end up miserable themselves, because most people won’t put up with their crap.
Some folks like that learn their lesson and “grow up.” Others never do and go to the grave angry and bitter. That’s just the breaks. The world simply isn’t a fair and just place, which is all the more reason to be as compassionate and supportive to those who are less unfortunate than we are. Regardless of your beliefs or non-beliefs, love and compassion is what our society needs the most of.
Mandy asks…
How would you deal with your anger over old, stale gossip?
I was at my all-school reunion when Mouthy Myron mentioned the wild behavior of a classmate of mine when she was in high school. (That was when Buddy Holly was singing “It Doesn’t Matter Any More” in live performances, a song that Myron the Moron ought to listen to again!) My friend was active in drama and athletics, was on the honor roll, and was sensitive and considerate toward other people. She never pretended to be a plaster saint. Y’know, none of us ever got our statues erected in any cathedral. “Peggy Sue got married” and is a retired school administrator. She has successfully raised five children, loves to visit her great grandkids, and is active in her church and community. I realize that we all sometimes gossip, and that my hopping to her defense would have given the remark too much importance. So, is there any way to deal with this kind of situation, without making it worse?
Sally Smith answers:
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Move on.
Translation: Don’t sweat the small stuff, and consider the source, my friend. Mouthy Myron was surely revealed to be a moron by anybody who knows about “Peggy Sue.”
Anybody who matters wouldn’t care, and anybody who would care, doesn’t matter.