Family of Origin Quiz

Rate from one (low) to five (high) your experience of the following healthy, functional family qualities and characteristics. Please read and answer each item as honestly as you can, by choosing how much you feel the statement applies to your experience growing up in your family.

Family members listened to each other

1 2 3 4 5

Family members felt connected and close

1 2 3 4 5

All members had some degree of power appropriate to their age and stage of development

1 2 3 4 5

There was an acceptance of who you were

1 2 3 4 5

There was respect for each other

1 2 3 4 5

Members were appreciated for their contributions and for being themselves

1 2 3 4 5

Punishments fitted the crime (consequences were fair and appropriate)

1 2 3 4 5

Members trusted each other

1 2 3 4 5

Members showed warmth and affection to each other (but not intrusively)

1 2 3 4 5

Members were honest and truthful with each other

1 2 3 4 5

Members could have fun together

1 2 3 4 5

Rules were fair and negotiable

1 2 3 4 5

It was okay to make mistakes

1 2 3 4 5

Members solved problems together

1 2 3 4 5

The family was a safe place to be

1 2 3 4 5

Members had a clear appreciated of each other’s boundaries – that is, they respected the personal and emotional space of each member

1 2 3 4 5

Members had a willingness to work through conflict

1 2 3 4 5

I knew my parents loved me no matter what

1 2 3 4 5

Members co-operated together

1 2 3 4 5

Members expressed anger safely

1 2 3 4 5

Members talked respectfully about feelings

1 2 3 4 5

Males and females were treated equally

1 2 3 4 5

Big and small accomplishments were noted and celebrated

1 2 3 4 5

Members could freely say “I was wrong”

1 2 3 4 5

Privacy was respected

1 2 3 4 5

Shared mealtimes were calm and enjoyable

1 2 3 4 5

Individual differences were respected and supported

1 2 3 4 5

There was a sense of commitment

1 2 3 4 5